FAD2230 Lecture 8 Outline of Last Lecture Lecture 22Outline of Last Lecture I Theoretical Perspectives on the Family i Family Development Theory ii Stages of Family Life Cycle iii Family Development Tasks iv Family Development Concepts v Systems Theory vi Systems Theory Concept vii Ecological System Theory viii Microsystems ix Mesosystems x Exosystems xi Macrosystems xii Chronosystems Outline of Current Lecture II Chapter 3 Building Relationships Expectations i Expectations ii Problems with expectations iii Common expectations Clashes iv Are they realistic v Common Unrealistic Expectations Current Lecture Chapter 3 Building Relationships Expectations Expectations Most issues that come up in relationships have something to do wit expectations Often we do not know or communicate our expectations until they have been violated Ex Expecting a good birthday but don t communicate it then have a meltdown Problems with expectations Expectations are problems when like an iceberg What you get on bottom of the iceberg ex Perception attitudes values mood feelings gender suspicion what you see the event on top 3 U s 1 Unaware 2 Unreasonable 3 Unspoken Common Expectations Clashes 1 Men s vs women s roles ex Household chores 2 Contact with previous partners 3 Money 4 Standards of cleanliness Ex With roommates 5 Time spent together Are they realistic Are your expectations realistic how do you know this what if you believe your expectation is realistic and your partner does not do you have a bottom line deal breaker If expectation IS valid but has been violated then approach your partner in such a manner I would appreciate it if you would Or I would really prefer that you Common Unrealistic Expectations 1 Mind reading is expected 2 Disagreement is destructive 3 Sexual perfectionism 4 Partners relationships cannot change 5 Sexes are different
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