HCOM 100 – Intro to Human CommunicationChapter 7: Interpersonal RelationshipsActivity: Interpersonal Communication & Self-DisclosureIntroduction: Interpersonal communication helps us establish and maintain relationshipswith others. One aspect of interpersonal communication is self-disclosure, which we learned in our last class session is just the act of giving someone information about ourselves they would not learn or know otherwise. The Social Penetration Theory, by Altman and Taylor, reveals that the topics we self-disclose tend to increase in depth and breadth as we get more comfortable with someone. Purpose: To illustrate what topics we typically talk about in relational stages and to become more aware of different opinions of appropriateness.*I usually remind the students that they don’t have to share something personal but it can be more hypothetical or a general topic they have self-disclosed or would self-disclose.Instructions: 1. Be sure students are sitting in 3-4 rows and that there is an even number of students in each row, if possible. 2. Draw 3-4 circles on the board, big enough so you can write things in them.3. As students to spend one minute thinking of a topic they think would be appropriate to share with a relational partner in the corresponding relational stage (depending on which row they are sitting in, but I usually have the front row be the deepest relational level). The students must also have a reason whythey think this topic would be appropriate to self-disclose in that particular stage .(1 min.)4. After one minute, ask students to share with the person sitting next to them their example and reason it would be appropriate. Both partners will take turnssharing with one another. (1-2 min.)5. As a pair, have them come up with one more topic or example they both agreewould be appropriate to share in that particular stage (1 min.)6. Have each dyad share their topic with the class. As they do, you would write iton the board in the corresponding circle. At this point, you could go directly into debriefing (questions below), or add the next step, depending on how much time you have.7. After you have written the topics on the board, ask every other student to move forward and the other students to move back one row. If they are in the front, they must move to the third or fourth row. Basically, they should be sitting next to someone different and everyone should be in a different row or relational stage. A brief diagram helps explain below: A B C DUp Back Up BackStudent A moves up one row, student B back, etc. I find that this gets students away from that person they are always interacting with and by physicallymoving, it helps them become more aware that they must look at this new stage differently from the previous one. I did not tell them before the activity that they would be moving seats and I did notice a little awkwardness from a few students when their new partner was a member of the opposite sex and they were now in the “very intimate” stage. 8. Repeat steps 5 and 6. Emphasize that they must come up with different topics than what is already on the board. Debrief: What did you learn? About yourself? Your partner? What did you find familiar about this activity (i.e. have you discussed these topics with someone in your life)?What are some interesting/unexpected things that occurred during this activity?What did you find challenging?How did your personal topics compare or contrast with those of your partners?How do our expectations for appropriateness differ in self-disclosure? Did you always agree with your partner about what was appropriate? How do these differences affect our relationships?How does our relational status with someone influence our self-disclosure?How did you feel when I asked you to move into a different stage? How did you feel about switching partners?What if I had only asked one of you to disclose your topic choice and reason for choosingit? How would it have made you feel if the other person didn’t disclose anything?What if your partner was a member of the opposite sex? Did this change your suggestions/ topics?What if your partner was from a different culture? How might the activity and your discussion differ?How does this relate to us outside the classroom environment?Key pointsThis activity was designed to make you aware of the many aspects to self-disclosure. Appropriateness: Feelings about the appropriateness of self-disclosure vary from person to person. Appropriateness can include propriety. You may have thought something was appropriate at a certain relational level, such as discussing past relationships. However, maybe your partner had a different opinion. Example, on a first date, talking about past relationships. This illustrates that we all have differing views of what is appropriate and what isn’t appropriate to disclose – appropriateness is an important dimension to self-disclosure. Reciprocity: We were also able to experience reciprocity during this activity, which is just the expectation that when we share something with another person, the other person will share something that is similar with us. Now I asked you to share with one another but sometimes, reciprocity doesn’t happen and we find ourselves more vulnerable because we’ve shared something personal while the other person may not have. Example: If you are my best friend and I share with you my deepest darkest secret and you respond by disclosing your feelings about Britney’s new haircut, there isn’t a lot of reciprocity going on. A big part ofreciprocity is also effective listening behaviors so we are able to let the other person know we are listening to them and respond to their statements.This theory helps us understand what kinds of things we share with others and how our relational stages influence what and how much we share. Its also important to realize whyself-disclosure is such a significant component of interpersonal relationships – but it isn’t an end in and of itself. We share with others and they share with us so we can create meaning together. Hopefully, through self-disclosure, you are brought closer to the other person. These opportunities to share have the potential to make relationships and partnerships meaningful.I hope you found this activity to be fun as well as useful and I want to thank everyone for participating.
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