COM 225 1nd Edition Lecture 18Outline of Last Lecture I. Definition of family II. Family systemsA. StructuresB. FunctionsIII. Family RulesIV. Family subsystems Outline of Current Lecture I. Family subsystemsCurrent LectureI. Family subsystems - interpersonal relationships that happen in the border system of the familyII. Parent/Child subsystem A. Parental behaviors1. Warmth - being affectionate, supportive, caring 2. Control - largely has to do with disciple, setting rules/expectations, making sure that children obey the rules 3. Take 2 behaviors, plot of graph, end up with 4 ways of parenting- Low control - not discipline/rules - High control - have discipline/rules/expectations- Low warmth - not a lot of love/affection- High warmth - lot of love/affection/support for child These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used asa supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.- 4 different qualities for parenting- Neglecting - low warmth/low control - Authoritarian - low warmth/high control - strict, does not show a lot of warmth and affection towards their kids - Authoritative - high warmth/ high control - loves/ shoes affection, has rules/expectations, still maintain control over kids - Laissez-faire - high warmth/low control - loves child, but doesn't have a lot of rules and expectations B. Parental control: Discipline1. Power assertion - parents uses fear to control a child - Exs. spanking, threats 2. Love withdrawal - parent takes away affection from a child until he or she obeys - Exs. ignoring, verbalizing disappointment 3. Induction -helping child to understand why their behavior is wrong and why they are receiving the discipline for what they did - Exs. explaining appropriate behavior and consequences for misbehavior- Leads to better interpretive competence - authoritative parenting associated with induction C. Husband-wife subsystem 1. Couple types2. Defined by the following dimensions- Interdependence - how much these 2 peoples lives are intertwined, how much time they spend together, how much theyrely on one another, more interdependent more life are connected - researches say couples vary- Conventionality - how traditional they are, traditional household man is in charge- Expressivity - how much do couples show emotion/love for each other, some may hold hands, some may not saythey love each other everyday - Conflict - not how much conflict couples have, how comfortable they are with conflict, comfortable say we have to fight this out D. Couple types - research done 30 years ago1. Traditional - high interdependent, high conventional, high expressive, high conflict 2. Separates - low interdependent, medium conventional, low expressive, low conflict 3. Independent - medium interdependent, low conventional, high expressive, high conflict4. Mixed - husband and wife differed in their approach to marriage, traditional were most happyE. Husband and wife subsystem: The Four Horsemen1. John Gottman - research focuses on communication and what leads to divorce 2. 5:1 ration (magic ratio) - positive to negative behaviors in marriage, every 1 negative thing you do - you have to do 5 positive things to balance it out 3. Brings couples into his lab and watches them interact for 7.5 mins and can tell if they will divorce in the next 7 years 4. Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: - Defensiveness - inability to take in criticism/complaints- Stonewalling - turn into a stonewall, shut off when engaged in conflict, refuse to acknowledge that they're talking, give nothing in return- Criticism - nagging, constant negative communication about the other persons traits, can turn personal - put down person, not just their behavior - Contempt - ALERT! - when one of the partners in the relationship begins to think they are better than the other person, develop attitude of