PSYCH 230 1st Edition Lecture 14Outline of Last Lecture I. Dating: Fun or Serious Business?II. Types of Dating and How Do We Meet?III. Interracial DatingIV. Sexuality in Dating RelationshipsV. Breaking UpVI. CohabitationVII. Marital SatisfactionOutline of Current Lecture Attached Chapter 7: The Secure Attachment Style I. The Secure Attachment Style II. Where Does Adult Attachment Style Come From? III. Conditions That Create A Secure BaseIV. Is There A Downside? V. Finding the Right PartnerVI. Cohabitation Effect: Fact or Fiction?VII. From More Recent ResearchVIII. National Survey Current LectureI. The Secure Attachment Stylea. Attuned to partners emotional and physical cues and know how to respond to them b. Emotional systems don’t get highly activated or shut downc. Best predictor of happiness in a relationship is a secure attachment styled. Can nurture insecurely attached partners into a move secure stylee. Researchers had observers rate a couples functioning during a joint interactionf. Sever couples functioned better than couples with 2 insecure peopleg. No observed differences in “mixed” couples (1 secure partner)h. Secure people create a buffering effecti. Expect their partners to be loving and responsiveII. Where Does Adult Attachment Style Come From?a. Both genes and environmentThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.b. Inconsistent results regarding the correlation between childhood and adult attachment stylec. If there is a correlation, it is weakd. A secure style does not originate from a single sourcee. 25-30% of adults report a change in their attachment style, secure people can change tooIII. Conditions that create a secure basea. Be available: Respond with sensitivity to distress, allow dependence when needed, provide comfort and check in with them periodicallyb. Don’t interfere: Support without taking over or micromanaging. Help in ways thatallow them to feel the accomplishment c. Encourage: Look for ways to accept learning and personal growth in your partner d. Anxiously attachment women are more likely to move toward security if they perceived their spouses as available, supportive, and accepting during pregnancy IV. Is There A Downside?a. Secure people can stay in unhealthy relationships for a long time b. They view their partners wellbeing as their responsibility c. Continue to back them as long as they see them as being in some sort of troubled. Likely to offer benign explanations of hurtful behaviors and be forgiving because they just don’t dwell on themV. Finding the Right Partner a. Spot “smoking guns” early and treat them as deal breakersb. Effectively communicate our needs from day 1c. Remember that there are many people you can partner with successfully d. Never take the blame for a dates offensive behavior e. Expect to be treated with respect dignity and loveVI. Cohabitation Effect: Fact or Fiction?a. Why increased relationship failure? (From your book?)b. Couples develop as separate individuals especially if different motivation (commitment vs. sexual access) c. Type of people that are more likely to cohabit maybe more likely to get divorce if faced with marital problemsVII. From more Recent Researcha. Most young adults now cohabitation before marriageb. Most marry the person they live withc. Most do not substitute cohabitation to marriage d. Most recent research does not support a cohabitation effectVIII. 2006-2010 National Survey of Family Growth a. Survey of over 22,000 men and women ages 15-44b. People marrying later cohabitation now normativec. Age at cohabitation now coincides with age at which older generations usually married d. Best