PSYCH 205 1st Edition Lecture 17 Outline of Last Lecture I. ReligionII. The Sexual Response Cycle in WomenIII. The Sexual Response Cycle in MenIV. Other Models of Sexual ResponseV. Sexual Fantasy: Enhancement or Unfaithfulness?VI. College StudentsOutline of Current Lecture I. Sexual OrientationII. What Determines Sexual Orientation?III. The Anxious Avoidant TrapI. Avoidant Attachment Style: Cope by DeactivatingCurrent Lecture Chapter 11: Sexual Orientation and Attached Chapter 8I. Sexual Orientation a. Sexual orientation- the gender(s) that a person is attracted to emotionally, physically, sexually, and romanticallyb. Heterosexual- predominantly attracted to members of the other sexc. Homosexual- predominantly attracted to members of the same sexd. Bisexual- attracted to both women and mene. Gay-typically a homosexual malef. Lesbian- homosexual femaleg. GLBTQ- gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or questioning/queerII. What Determines Sexual Orientation?a. People vary greatly in sexual behavior, fantasies, self-concepts, and emotional attachments- each contributes to sexual orientationb. Sexual experimentation and sexual orientation are two different things Attached Chapter 8II. The Anxious-Avoidant Trapa. Hard to move to greater security because trapped in cycle of exacerbating each other’s intimacy insecurities These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.b. Anxious Attachment Style: Cope with threats to relationship by activating their attachment system and trying to get closerIII. Avoidant Attachment Style: Cope by Deactivatinga. Telltale signs of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap- The Roller-Coaster Effect: Variable ratio reinforcement with periodic availability with the avoidant attached partner- The Emotional Counter Balancing Act: People who are avoidant need a partner who have been taught to feel “less than, needy and incapable”- Stable Instability: Relationship may last a long time, but because chronically dissatisfying to one or both partners- Are We Really Fighting About This: You and others may feel you are constantly fighting about silly things; The underlying issue is really amount of intimacy - Life In the Inner Circle as the Enemy: Anxiously attached people often find that they are treated worse and worse as they become the person closest to a partner with avoidant attachment style - Experiencing the Trap: Develop sense that the relationship is not right for you; but, you feel too emotionally connected to leaveb. Without some type of intervention, the anxiously attached partner is the one who usually has to make concessions and accept the rules imposed by the avoidant partnerc. Intimacy differences can spill over into more and more areas of life. Every life transition and choice can result in an intimacy gapd. Conflict is often left unresolved because resolution of conflict creates too much intimacy. Avoidantly attached people grow more hostile and distant as argumentsprogress, both secure and anxiously attached people seek resolution and feel greater intimacy when resolution is resolved e. As each conflict goes unresolved, the anxiously attached partner loses more
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