PSYCH 230 1st Edition Lecture 11 Outline of Last Lecture I. The Testicles II. Testosterone ProductionIII. Spermatogenesis IV. Ejaculatory PathwayV. Pre-Ejaculatory FluidVI. Ejaculate/Semen VII. Human EjaculateOutline of Current Lecture I. Protest BehaviorII. Some Dating Tips from AttachedIII. Are You Dating and Avoidant?IV. Behavioral Reinforcement TheoriesV. Cognitive TheoriesVI. Physiological TheoriesVII. Evolutionary TheoriesVIII. Biological TheoriesIX. Ending a Relationship with RespectCurrent LectureI. Protest Behaviora. Any behavior that tries to reestablish contact and get their attentionb. Can lead to behavior that harms the relationship as well as the persons sense of selfc. Excessive attempts reestablish contactd. Withdrawing e. Keeping scoref. Acting hostile g. Threatening to leaveh. Manipulationi. Trying to make the other person feel jealousII. Some Dating Tips from AttachedThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.a. Don’t mistake an activated attachment systems for passionb. Don’t settle for the chronic activation of trying to win the heart of someone who is avoidant c. Remember that there are more avoidant people in the dating pool because they end their relationship more oftend. Secure people may seem boring at first. Give them a chance and a breake. Avoidant people don’t date each otherIII. Are You Dating an Avoidant?a. Sends mixed messages b. Longs for ideal relationship/partner and you are not itc. Disregards your emotional well-being even when confrontedd. Thinks the problem is that you are too needy, sensitive, or overreactinge. Ignores things you say if they are inconvenient f. Addresses your concerns as “in a court of law”: intellectualizes to avoid emotiong. Your healthy attempts to communicate don’t work and you are left feeling like it is your faulth. Be yourself and keep working toward being your best selfi. Don’t partner with anyone who doesn’t help you and challenge you in your life pursuitsj. If your aren’t treated well, look for partners then GET OUTk. Remember there are more fish in the seaIV. Behavioral Reinforcement Theoriesa. We love because another person reinforces positive feelings in ourselvesb. Positive/rewarding feeling in the presence of another makes us like them, even if the reward is unrelated to that personc. Love is a result of many mutually reinforcing activities with a personV. Cognitive Theories a. A behavior occurs and then we interpret it as loveb. If we think someone likes us we are more prone to find them attractiveVI. Physiological Arousal Theoriesa. Physiological arousal is labeled with an emotionb. We are more likely to experience love when we are physiologically aroused for any reasonc. Shaky bridge studyd. Male participants on a “scary” bridge were more like than males on a “safe” bridge to call a female they met on the bridgeVII. Evolutionary Theorya. Need for protectionb. Parents protect the childc. Sexual drived. We love in order to produce offspringe. Hetero men want healthy women to carry offspringf. Hetero women want men with resources to care for her and the offspringVIII. Biological Theoriesa. Pheromones: odorless chemicals secreted by humans and animals; processed in hypothalamus and influence choice of sexual partnerb. Also promote love bond between mother and infantc. Odor preferences are influenced by major histocompatibility complex (MHC); people may be programmed to mate with partners whole MHC differs from their ownIX. Ending a Relationship with Respecta. Be clear about what you want. Sometimes it helps to make a commitment to someone else (parent, therapist, friend, pastor) to decrease the chance of backing downb. Rehearse what you want to sayc. Consider possible outcomes and think through rational responsesd. Choose an appropriate time, place. Have the conversation face to facee. Use cognitive strategies to stick to your message (self-talk, self-soothing)f. Avoid debating your dissatisfactionsg. Avoid leaving the door open to future relationship/friendship in order to soothe the other persons feelings. It only creates opportunity for misunderstanding and future dramah. Keep to a reasonable time limit i. MOVE