Slide 1Sexual CoercionMore scary statistics…Sexual HarassmentUnderstanding Dialectics…RD’s Roots in Mikhail Bakhtin (among others)The Road to Our Classroom Discussion…Internal and External DialecticsThe Competing DialecticsSOME of the strategies for managing the dialecticsSOME of the strategies for managing the dialecticsSexual Coercion (Catch-up) &Relational Dialecticshttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxxcgLOSqS0Sexual Coercion0Extremely Common0______________ of college women report having been forced to engage in sexual intercourse. That’s more than 1 out of 5. 0Another ____________ report having unwanted sex as a result of coercion0Mixed cues?0Indirectness0Token resistance0Women, too, have a problem with sex refusal.0_____________ of women still tried to influence the man to have sexMore scary statistics…0http://www.rainn.org/statistics0________________________: The belief that a person brought on their rape through behavior, dress, etc.0NO ONE—MALE OR FEMALE—IS EVER ASKING TO BE RAPED.Sexual Harassment 0Two Types0_________________________: Offering an incentive (or punishment) in return for a sexual favor0_________________________: Creating an environment through the use of inappropriate language or conduct that is threatening0Possible Responses0Passive0Assertive0Retaliatory0http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovIsy-NVHh4Understanding Dialectics…•_________________ is the central concept of relational dialectics•“The dynamic interplay between unified oppositions”•Formed whenever two tendencies or forces are interdependent yet mutually negate one another (Open vs. Closed)–Must have an “_________________________ and vice versa–If one is being open, then one is NOT being closedRD’s Roots in Mikhail Bakhtin (among others)•Dialectical structure (_______________) is the “deep structure” of all human experience•Both a _______________and __________ force–Think pinwheel on ice skates•Relationships are always ________________–The only certainty is certain change•Bonding occurs in both interdependence with the other and independence from the other.The Road to Our Classroom Discussion…•Marx•Bakhtin•Certainly others•The idea of “dialectic” is old. Baxter and Montgomery brought the idea of “dialectics” to the field of interpersonal communication•_____________________ _____________________Internal and External Dialectics•___________ = Between the people in the relationship•____________ = Between the couple and society (family/larger community)The Competing Dialectics#1Open-ClosedRevelation-Concealment#2Autonomous-ConnectedSeclusion-Inclusion#3Predictable-NovelConventional-UniqueINTERNAL DIALECTICEXTERNAL DIALECTIChttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SnPZMozo5cQSOME of the strategies for managing the dialectics•_______________________–Negotiating between the two extremes of the dialectic•EX. Mom and Dad. Tell them some, but not all•______________________–Honoring one pole of the dialectic while neglecting the other•EX. “We are completely going to tell each other everything!”SOME of the strategies for managing the dialectics•_________________–Giving priority to a specific dialectic need in certain circumstances or topics and placing emphasis on the opposing dialectic need in other circumstances or topics•Cyclic Alternation•Topical Segmentation•__________________–Engaging in perspective taking to redefine opposing dialectics as no longer threatening a relationship•EX. Considine Study on Hospice workers (Leading vs. Following)•“You’re gone all week long. I love it when you come for the