FAS 370 1st Edition Lecture 8Outline of Today’s Lecture I. Family ProcessesA. Definition, DescriptionII. Individual processesA. Distance RegulationB. ReciprocityC. Interactional SynchronyD. TouchE. SightF. Vocal PatternsIII. 2 Types of ParentsA. Emotionally CoachingB. Emotionally DismissiveIV. RulesCurrent LectureI. Family ProcessesA. The Family Dance: Family relationships can be thought of like a dance. When dancing, you need to monitor the behavior of your dance partner to determine your rhythm, and synchrony. It is necessary for dance partners to take note and attend to each other in order to dance smoothly and successfully. The same is true for family “partners”.Definition of a family process: The tactics used to maximize the goals that the family holds; these goals derive from the main beliefs of the family. Such as, how we communicate with one another, and what boundaries are present.II. Individual ProcessesA. Distance Regulation: We have to be aware of the distance between our self and our family members.- Is influenced by our culture, which is taught through participation.- It can be physical or emotional regulationB. Reciprocity: Families exchange behaviors that follow the pattern of each other.- It can be a trade of good for good, or bad for bad. Ex. A smile for a smile or yelling for yelling.C. Interactional Synchrony: The changing of one’s own behavior to match the family rhythm. - Better than reciprocity- Allows individuals to identify what is going on in the family and then alter their behavior according to the situationD. Touch: Used as a communication system between a parent and a child as well as other family members.- Touch can signal affection, anger, love and other messages.- We learn what is appropriate in regards to touch from our families. We develop a sense of what we are comfortable with based on touch patterns at home.E. Sight: Sight gives us the ability to read people and situations- Sight allows us to interpret facial expressions- It also allows us to detect patterns and asses situations appropriatelyF. Voice Patterns: Talking to convey specific messages- The meaning can change simply by the way you say it- It depends on the tone and inflection used in your voice- Ex. SarcasmIII. 2 types of parentingJohn Gottman categorized two types of parents based on parent-child interactions…A. Emotionally Coaching- This type of parent teaches children to identify and regulate their emotions. They do not ignore or fear emotional expressions; they acknowledge and encourage them.- Outcomes: Children are better able to control their emotions on their own and more quickly.B. Emotionally Dismissive- This type of parent dismisses emotions quickly and has no desire to soothe their child’s emotions, or identify what they are.- Outcomes: Child is likely to snap and react quickly and does not easily manage their emotions.IV. Rules- Families carry implicit and explicit rules, which arise over time as a way of doing things.- Rules are patterns that appear as a result of doing something over and over again.- Rules can be social normsRules have many purposes:- Manage behavior- Establish clear boundaries- Influence
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