SOA 223 1st Edition Lecture 35 Outline of Last Lecture 1 Attraction Outline of Current Lecture 1 Similarity 2 Relationships 3 Love Styles Current Lecture Attraction Similarity Why is similarity attractive Reassuring and reinforcing consensual validation Expect to be liked and have good communication Interaction with similar others can be more fun and enjoyable 2 stage model of attraction process Similarity Attraction Dissimilarity Repulsion Liking those who like us Reciprocal liking One person s liking for another predicts others liking in return balance Self fulfilling prophecy of liking Hard to get effect Exchange Perspective to Choosing a partner Rewards any positive consequence Costs any negative consequence or loss Comparison level what we expect or feel we deserve from a relationship Comparison level for alternatives what we expect we could receive from another relationship Close relationships Love These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute Closeness Intimacy Feelings of attachment fulfillment of psychological needs interdependence self disclosure Self disclosure patterns in relationship Pattern 1 Self disclosure grows over time in breadth depth Pattern 2 Strict reciprocity occurs to a greater degree early in the relationship Pattern 3 Individual differences in self disclosure gender Secure insecure attachment styles Attachment style the way a person typically interacts with significant others Liking vs Love Zick Rubin s scales Liking scale measures respect admiration confidence in other Love scale measures dependence on trust in feelings of responsibility for the other Passionate Love vs Companionate Love Passionate love intense absorption likely to include anguish and pleasure Schachter s 2factor theory of emotion physiological arousal cues from context to label arousal Companionate Love affection felt by 2 people whose lives are deeply intertwined o Less emotionally intense o Accompanied by less sexual excitement o More stable Triangular Theory of Love sternberg s theory 1 Intimacy emotional component 2 Passion motivational component 3 Commitment cognitive component 3 components of love combine to create 8 subtypes of love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Non love no components Friendship intimacy alone Infatuation passion alone Empty love commitment alone Romantic love intimacy passion Fatuous love passion commitment Companionate love intimacy commitment Consummate love intimacy passion commitment Love styles Originally developed by John Lee 1973 based on interviews conducted with married couples Hendrick and Hendrick 1986 developed a love attidues scale to measure the 6 styles of love One can score high on more than 1 love style Six love styles Eros romantic passionate love Ludus game playing love Storge friendship love Pragma practical love Mania obsessive love Agape all giving love Finding related to love styles 2 love styles most common in college romances are eros and storge Men score higher on ludus and eros Women higher on stroge pragma and mania Equity Issues Balance counts Worse to be under benefiting partner Factors associated with lower marital satisfaction and or likelihood of divorce Passage of time Personality characteristics neuroticism Lower SES Marrying at young age Relationship Issues communication conflict Research by Gottman has identified 4 horsemen of apocalypse negative behaviors harmful to the relationship o Criticism o Defensiveness o Stonewalling resisting dealing with problems o Contempt most problematic Communication patterns in troubled relationship o Negative affect reciprocity o Demand withdrawal interaction pattern
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