COMM 315 1st Edition Lecture 3 Outline of Last Lecture I. Continuation of the Communication ProcessII. Interpersonal Communication PrinciplesIII. Interpersonal Communication and TechnologyIV. Electronically Mediated Communication vs. Face to Face CommunicationV. Different types of “Self”Outline of Current Lecture I. How Self-Concept DevelopsII. Self Esteem/Self WorthIII. FaceworkIV. How to Improve Self EsteemV. Self and Interpersonal RelationshipsVI. “Cyber self” vs. “Realspace self”VII. Interpersonal PerceptionsCurrent Lecture- How Your Self-Concept Developso Interactions with individuals  Looking Glass Self- How others react to what we do and say, and then how we display ourselves based on how others say we are. We believe and reflect these details about ourselves more likely if the comments are - Credible- Consistent- Frequent Attachment Styles- Secure Attachment Style- love giving and receiving affection. Emotional support was consistent growing up (60%) - Anxious Attachment Style- experience anxiety in some form of their relationship Emotional support was inconsistent growing up (10%)- Avoidant Attachment Style- avoid intimate and affection Emotional support was lacking/nonexistent growing up (%)o Associations with groupsThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. Groups provide support to people and helps us to secure who it is we want to beo Roles you assumeo Self-labels Self reflexiveness- allows us to think about what we’re doing and how we’re doing ito Personality and Biology Psychology- a set of internal dispositions to how you react to things Personality- 5 personality traits- Extroversion- how outgoing and sociable you are- Level of Agreeableness- how friendly, trusting, and compassionate you are- Consciousness- efficient, organized, dutiful and methodical- Neuroticism- nervous, self distressed and - Openness- curiousness, inventive Communibiological approach- suggests that biological and psychological self, play a major role in influencing communication behavior. Social Learning theory- can adapt and adjust our behavior towards others. We learn our behaviors from others Shyness- the tendency to not talk or interact to other people Communication Apprehension- fear associated with real or anticipated communication with other. Often learned. Can be topic specific Willingness to communicate- the likeliness that you will communicate with others in a variety of situations- Self-Esteem: Your Self-Wortho Self-Worth (Esteem)- how you evaluate your worth in a given situationo Self Efficacy- your own self belief in your ability to complete a task.o Social Comparison- how “good” you are compared to otherso Life Position- describes your feelings of regards for yourself and others regarding I’m okay, you’re okay- both a high regard for self and others I’m okay, you’re not ok- positive regard for self and low for others I’m not ok, you’re ok- negative regard for self and high for others I’m not ok, you’re not ok- both a low regard for self and others- Facework: o Face- how we present ourselves to otherso Facework- presenting your Self Image to Otherso Projecting your face through: Positive Face: people want to be seen as competent, valued Preventative Facework- maintain and enhance one’s negative aspects; prevent negative face (txt boss when late) Corrective Facework- correct what one perceives as a negative perception of one’s self. Making a mistake/something embarrassing and then trying to correct that. (humor, ignore, joke, lie)o Protecting other’s face through Politeness theory- people tend to promote a positive face for themselves,but that others will have a positive face of you if you are polite and friendly Face-threatening acts- when there’s a negative message to communicate you have to decide how harsh and stuff you’ll be- Could be negative- “you’re ugly”- Negative but has a counter explanation- “you’re office is a mess but it’s understandable because”- Off the record- “I’m not supposed to tell you this… you’re doing a great job even though your office is a mess”- Don’t say anything at all - How to Improve your Self Esteemo Engage in self talk Intrapersonal Communication- “I can do this”. kinda stuff talking yourself up. If you think positively, you’re more likely to do positivelyo Visualize a positive image of yourself Visualization- visualizing how to obtain your perfect _______ o Avoid comparing yourself with otherso Reframe appropriately Reframing- seeing the positives in the negative things. Learning from something that’s happened.o Develop honest relationships- it’s helpful to have another person to share thoughts and stuffs. Having a person you can discuss things with helps you get better at things you want to get better at and reassuring you’re good of those thingso Let go of the past- letting go can help our self esteem; holding on can hinder growtho Seek Support Social support- close friends and family Talk therapy- professional help- Self and Interpersonal Relationshipso Self and interaction with others- positive thoughts and image = positive interactions Symbolic interaction theory- assumes we make sense of the world based off the interactions we have with others. o Self and Future Self-fulfilling prophecy- your goals will come true because you believe they will come true. “Placebo effect”o Self and Interpretation of messages- how you think about yourself also determines how you interpret messageso Self and Interpersonal Needs- humans like to interact with other humans. 3 primary social needs: Need for inclusion Need for control Need for affectiono Self and disclosure of others-  Self disclosure- purposefully disclosing info to others that they wouldn’t have learned if you hadn’t told them. Don’t want to give out too much or too little information Self awareness- conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires Johari window model- - Open- known to other and self- Blind- known to others, not known to self- Hidden- not known to others, known to self- Unknown- not known to others or self **Windows can be different sizes! Self and communication social style- everyone has a unique