CDFR 3002 1st Edition Lecture 17 Outline of Last Lecture I. Parenting by Adoption and Reproductive Technology Part 1 Outline of Current Lecture II. Myth #3 III. Family Communication is Important IV. Myth #4 V. Searching for Birth Parents VI. Telling Children Current Lecture- Myth #3: Adopted Children are More Troubled o 5% of Clinical Population Despite Being 2% of General Population Ability to Accurately Count Number of Adoptions is Limited Children May Be More Vulnerable: - Genetics - Pre-Adoption Environments Adoptive Parents More Alert to Difficulties, Faster to Intervene - Some of This is Due to Parent Insecurity/Fear - Adopted Mothers Reported Higher Levels of Rule-Breaking and Aggressiveness o Teachers and Psychiatric Evaluations Found All 3 Groups to Function Equally Well - Family Communication is Important o Adoptive Children Most Sensitive To: Neglect of Laissez Faire Parents Over-Control of Protective Parents o When Warm, Supportive Environments Exist Behaviors are Similar o Adopted Teenagers Less Warm With Parents More Conflict o Consensual Pattern: Warm and Open o Protective Pattern: Open Expression Not Encouraged; Rigid Standardso Pluralistic Pattern: Cool and Distant But Shared Thoughts o Laissez Faire: Nobody Spoke or Listened; Lived Separate Lives - Myth #4: If They Know, They Will Reject… o Secure Parents Neither Overemphasize or Deny They Are Open To Talk About Adoption They Understand Child Has Link to Two Families These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. They Can Explain Different Ways to Form a Family o General Advice is to Tell Children When They Are Toddler/Preschool Preschool: Focus on Happy Experience of Adoption 7-11: Understand Adoption is Different Than Traditional Way- Understand Blood Relations, Begin to Wonder About Their Biological/Birth Parents - Become More Preoccupied With Questions, Especially About Reason for Adoption - Typically Experience Intense Feelings (Anger, Rejection, Loss, Worry) - May Fear That Adoptive Parents Will “Give Them Up” Teenagers: - Questions Are More Identity Based, Often Consider Searching - Searching for Birth Parents o Girls More Interested and Preoccupied With Searching But They Did Not Search Moreo Once Reunited: Decreased Feelings of Rejection - 50% Considered Parent a Friend/Relative - 33% Saw Them As Parent- 18% Remained Distant Increases Closeness With Adoptive Parents - 16% Report Decline in Relationship With Adoptive Parents - Telling Children o Ethics Committee Strongly Recommends: Both Donors and Receiving Parents Receive Counseling Agree on Release of Donor Before Accepting Donation o Professional Opinion Has Changed Used to Recommend Not Telling Now They Strongly Recommend o Secrets Tend To Create Tension and Conflict Becoming Much More Common/More Socially Acceptable Parents Who Know It Will Be Discovered More Likely to Tell - Heterosexual Couples Are Least Likely to Tell o Many Believe Children Have a Right to Know Genetic History Need Medical Histories and Provides Sense of
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