CDFR 3002 1st Edition Lecture 12 Outline of Last Lecture I. Parenting Elementary School Children Part 1 Outline of Current Lecture II. Self-Esteem III. Self-Regulation IV. Ethnic Identities (Age 7)V. Ethnic Identities VI. Parent-Child Relationships VII. Parents’ Changing Roles VIII. Sibling Relationships IX. Bullying X. Importance of Daily Events XI. Parenting Stage (Galinsky) XII. Parenting Tasks (Overview) Current Lecture- Self-Esteem o Two Critical Domains Feeling Competent in Domains of Importance- Physical Appearance - Social Acceptance- Scholastics - Athletic  Amount of Social Support o Transitions Are Critical Times for Self-Esteem o Culture Affects Self-Esteem  More Independent Cultures Have Higher Self-Esteem - Self-Regulation o Parental Qualities That Enhance Self-Regulation  Being Warm and Supportive  Developing Mutually Responsive Relationships  Helping Children Understand Their Behaviors - Especially How It Affects Others  Using Reasoning/Persuasion to Gain Compliance  Include Children in Family Decision Making  Help Children Develop Internal Code for Rules Model Care and Concern for Others These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.- Ethnic Identities (Age 7) o Ethnic Differences in Family Activities  European Americans- More Time: Playing, Sports, Reading - Less Time: Studying- Value Strong Cognitive Ability  African Americans - More Time: In Church - Strong Religious Value  Latino/a- More Household and Family Activities - Strong Family Orientation  Asian Americans - Education Activities - Strong Desire for Academic Achievement - Ethnic Identitieso Important for Parents to: Share Messages Regarding Racial Pride Prepare Child for Experiences with Bias o Timing is Critical: Early Elementary is Too Soon- Boys Get Aggressive- Girls Get Anxious  Wait Until Later (Around Age 9-10)- Parent-Child Relationships o Parents Spend ½ as Much Time o Parents Give Less Physical Affection o Children with Secure Attachments: Adapt Well to School Demands Perform Academically Are Socially Accepted o Attachment Changes if:  Secure to Insecure: Less Attention/Affection Secure to Disorganized: Chronic Stress/Major Loss Insecure to Secure: More Availability/Communication - Parents’ Changing Roles o Similarities: More Demanding of Boys Than Girls More Disapproving of Boys’ Misbehavior  Both are Described as Loving, Happy, Honest, Responsible, and Self Confident by Children  Encourage Assertiveness in Boys  Encourage Cooperation and Dependence in Girls o Mother Mange Family Tasks  More Directive  More Positive  Primary Emphasis: - Other’s Feelings o Father  More Physical Play  Give More Affection  More Involved if: - Mother Doesn’t Do All Caregiving  High Job Status: - Father Less Involved Primary Emphasis: - Learning & Creativity - Sibling Relationships o Parents Should Be:  Positive Treat Children Fairlyo Conflict Between Parents Leads to: Increased Hostility Towards Kids Children Show Anger Towards Each Other & Peers Sibling Conflict Predicts: - Anxiety- Depression- Acting Out in Early Adolescence - Bullyingo Physical vs. Relational Aggression Single Child is Targeted and Hurt or Excluded  Girls Bully as Much as Boys - When Relational Aggression is Included o Characteristics of Bullies Many Victims Become Bullies  Both Have Low Self-Esteem  Both Have Negative Views of School - Believe Authorities are Unfair  Related to Getting and Keeping Power Positive School Climate Decreases Bullying  Self Esteem Programs Prevent Bullying - Importance of Daily Events o The Family That Plays Together, STAYS Together  Eats Together Plays Together Sleeps Together Prays/Attends Church Together Exercises Together Reads Together- Parenting Stage (Galinsky) o Interpretive Stage Parents Share Facts and Information Help Child Interpret the World Teach Values and Guide Behavior - Parenting Tasks (Overview) o Be Attentive and Responsive o Guide Behavioro Structure Home Using Daily Routines o Encourage Autonomyo Maintain Family Ritualso Server as Interpreter of Child’s Experiences o Participate in Child’s Activities o Serve as Advocate for Childo Share Leisure