CDFR 3002 1st Edition Lecture 4 Outline of Last Lecture I. Learning To ParentOutline of Current Lecture II. Pathways to Parenthood: Today III. Lessons From “The Big O” IV. Are You Ready?V. Unintended PregnanciesVI. Married ParentsVII. Cohabitating ParentsVIII. Carefully Planned Babies IX. Two Tracts for Children Current Lecture- Pathways to Parenthood: Today o 60% Married Parentso 20% Cohabitatingo 13% Romantically Involvedo 7% No Involvement with the Fathero 1% Adoptedo 1% Assisted Pregnancy - Lessons From “The Big O”o Seeing yourself as a missing piece is bigger problem than finding a partner o Learning to function on your own is one of the best ways of finding a good partner “A satisfying marriage is about being the right partner not finding the right partner” o Looking too intensely can make relationships harder o Sometimes when we date we grow out of relationshipso Well-functioning people don’t get trapped in relationships when they are trying to save poor functioning people o Healthy relationships help us grow as individuals - Are You Ready?o David Lykken Older than 18 Married Employed No history of violence o Christopher Heinicke  Good self-esteemThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. Positive relationships with others Flexible problem solving Cognitive readiness Healthy lifestyle- Immediately after- Even before pregnancy o Michael Lu  Get regular exercise Get adequate sleep Eat healthy food  Learn relaxation techniques Prevent stress Problem solving skills Conflict resolution skills Psychological stability- Self-acceptance- Satisfaction with life  Stay connected- Family - Friends- Community  Get help if you have problems with:- Domestic violence, depression, or substance abuse - Unintended Pregnancies o How do they happen? Failure to use contraceptive: 52%  Contraceptive failure: 48% - Half of unintended pregnancies terminated by miscarriage or abortion - Many unintended babies are welcomed by arrival o Why is it a concern?  Mothers less likely to seek prenatal care Mothers more likely to continue unhealthy behaviors- Smoking, drinking, etc.  Mothers are: - More depressed, less happy, spend less time, and are more likely to spank- Less affectionate and less supportive, even through adolescence  More likely to have babies that are: - Premature- Small for gestational age- Less likely to breastfeed  Fathers are less nurturing and less likely to be involved in childcare - Married Parents o Parents More educated Higher incomes Stay together longer More likely to plan children  More prenatal care More sensitive parents- Less depressed- More satisfied relationships o Children Enjoy more structure  Less stressful lives - Cohabitating Parents o Parents More pregnancies - Unintended and intended o Latinas most plannedo Caucasian most likely to marry - Children from multiple partners  Relationships - 33% get married- 50% simply end - More conflict, more ambivalence  More negative feelings - More depressed- Less sensitive o Children  By age 9- 50% experience parent’s separation o Only 20% for married couples - Carefully Planned Babies o Adoption and ART Parents Must plan very carefully to have a baby Typically: - Have more resources- Demonstrate commitment, persistence, and planning  Many have experienced all pathways  Better transition to parenthood Especially sensitive and effective parents - Two Tracts for Children o High Income Marriage- Higher education- Marry 1st Children 2nd  More stable Children- Many advantages o Low Income Value marriage- Seen as distant goal- Wait until financially stable  Children- Can have outside marriage - Bring emotional satisfaction- Economic stability not requirement for childreno Caring for them is enough - Start life with many