CMS 357 1st Edition Lecture 20 Family Communication Final Review Study guide What is the Adolescent Identity Formation Adolescents are becoming individually based instead of socially Identity formation 3 parts 1 Integration way everyone and yourself view YOU take what you like from that and throw away what you don t like to form identity 2 Differentiation defining who you are by saying what you DON T want to be 3 Substitution view yourself one way and add on what other people think of you Patchwork self Identity problems 2 parts 1 Identity Confusion person who doesn t know if they are who they are when with parents friends etc 2 foreclosure shut down and take identity imposed by other people doesn t quite know their identity yet so take on different identities Generational gap between parent and child there is actually evidence that reveals little value differences than the way you were raised compared to the parents What are the parenting styles 1 Authoritative flexible with the children but set the kids to a certain degree of responsibility 2 Authoritarian high control low warmth flexibility problem punitive controlling 3 Permissive Laze Faire high warmth low control girls could have more emotional problems and boys have behavioral problems 4 Harmonize Parents perspective on parenting affects their children emphasize principles over achievement i Watching for the effort more than the outcome ii It is not whether you win or lose but that you tried iii The kids are More creative socially responsible with less of a need for achievement iv Come to UT study abroad not freaked about grades How to define peer culture members behave in a rule like fashion members of the culture things you are suppose to do and things you are not example where you sit in cafeteria you are not suppose to act like you like your parents not suppose to like family activities Members have shared meaning for actions norms and behaviors it means something if people don t sit at the lunch table who you can and cannot talk to extra circular activities you do this means something in terms of your identity jock or band member Activities are focused around repeatable recognizable themes prom homecoming What are the Developmental Phases of Adolescent Friendship 1 Shared activity stage 12 13 years old friends are friends based on activities they do together extracurricular activities together not sophisticated not many other choices your stuck with these people 2 Shared identity stage 14 16 years old start to focus on loyalty support understanding each other cliques begin to start are most prevalent because of loyalty of being together to the group the jocks cheerleaders stoners nerds 3 Individuality phase when you start 17 18 years old value of a friend is based on their individual characteristics less important cliques separate individual becomes more important What is the Overview of family change 1 o Developmental Stage and Life Course Approaches Central to understanding the role of communication in change and challenges in family life o Individual developmental stages is one s experience of critical periods of change or life stages from birth until death Limitations focused on normal middle class white families entire process moved for the entire family all together at the same time different members of the family experience didn t stages also overlooked gay lesbian or childless couples A Life Course Approach focuses on the transitions and trajectories and provides another valuable way to understand change because the life trajectories of individuals are linked with other s trajectories especially family members this approach understands that digital media economic uncertainties environmental concerns globalization new reproductive technologies and terrorism have been causing stress technology can make people feel like they are on call 24 7 A Life coarse perspective focuses on the three types of time individual time generational time historical time Individual time refers to the chronological age generation time refers to the family time or the positions and roles individuals hold in families breadwinner grandma historical refers to the event that occur during the era of our time Families with children partner communication shifts dramatically when children are born Family with 1st child views on parental responsibilities and restriction gratification child rearing holds for a couple and their own marital intimacy and stability Families with Adolescents Highly functional parent teen relationships depend on navigating privacy boundaries teenagers experience struggles as they cope with friendships sexuality o Teenagers who view their parents positively are more likely to be open in their communication about topics that are sexuality risky and likely to discuss sensitive issues more frequently This is important to have safer sex and delayed asexual activity Adolescent self esteem affects family relationships Girls tell more and boys are more avoidant A major task of adolescence is loosening family bonds strengthening bonds with their peers Launching Children And Midlife o When children leave home the parents are in midlife o Midlife experience 1 Transition of parent child relationships to adult adult 2 Changes in partnership functioning or single parent 3 Expansion of the family to include new in laws 4 Opportunities to resolve relationships with aging parents 5 Opportunities to revitalize sibling ties a Both from being responsible for their children to a sense of mutual responsibility between caring adults Families in Later Life o Over 1 3 of men and one half of women live alone due to divorce or death of the spouse o Older people face issues of identity based on retirement health concerns decreasing physical strength wives continued employment appears to be associated with greater men deal worse with retirement and depend on their wives more o Elder function sharing of accumulation wisdom of their lives with younger people usually family members designed to guide the younger generation Transitions between Stages o Functional families try and offset the challenges of transitions while focusing on positive aspects of the given stage What are the common characteristics of a good relationship There are 2 Parts 1 Compatibility similarities and agree about a lot of things religion food differences in socioeconomic backgrounds 2 Conflict can work out if the couples recognize that there is a problem Recognize conflict