CMS357 1st Edition Lecture 19 I. Physical Abuse in MarriageA. History and demographicsa. 20 years ago you couldn’t prosecute rape in a marriage i. Mild violence: pushing, shoving, grabbing ii. Severe violence: beating, using weapons, hitting, punching1. More easily recognizable as not ok2. 20% of couples have seen some type of violence in the past year 3. severe violence is 5%b. Characteristics of Abusersi. Tend to have low self-esteem, don’t think very highly of themselves- tend to be relatively unasserting with their spouse of partnerii. Not assertive/ more aggressive and highly jealous1. Asking for permission to go hang out with a friend/ wardrobe 2. Tend to use sex or physical affection in a more aggressive way, not about love- tenderness 3. Very rigid sex role attitudes a. Supposed to be more submissive to the man4. They endorse violence5. People who are violent are more likely to be have been abused themselvesc. Types of Abusive Relationshipsi. Situational violence- common couple violence, occasional outburst, can be done by husbands or wivesii. Intimate terrorism- can be a woman against a man too, more severe/ frequent/ systematic violence- Hedda Nussbaum1. People can be so abused that they don’t seek helpiii. Violence resistance- someone in a relationship is violent but are behaving this way in a response to violence, not an immediate self-defense situation- wife shoots a husbandd. Communication issuesi. The one thing that distinguishes violent men from others- low in assertiveness but high in verbal aggressivenessii. If you put abusive men in a conflict situation with their wives, their physical arousal goes upiii. Types of intitmate terroisim: 1. Cobras- when they are in conflict situations- physically relax- don’t have reason to kill the personbecause they are enjoying it2. Pitbulls engage in violence to get control (double suicides, shoots her and them himself) I. Physical Abuse of ChildrenA. Demographicsa. 11-12% of parents admit to engaging in severe violencewith their childrenB. Characteristicsa. boys are abused more, younger children more than older childreni. young sons are more at riskii. mothers and fathers who stay home are more likely to be abused- iii. more likely to be abused in alcohol or drugs iv. they are more likely to be clinically depressed than the average personv. high stress sounds of children make aggressive abusers uptightvi. abusers are more likely to be abusers themselvesC. Characteristics of abused childrena. More the younger than adultb. Handicapped, something wrong with themc. Not wanted in the first placeD. Effectsa. More problems with intellectual development b. Likely to do worse in school than other kids- language development issues, social problems, trust issues c. Non abused kids will ignore it- or empathetic, the kids who are abused when they see another little in distresswill get aggressive or some others will get extremely fearful- they see themselves in that situation, similar toPTSDd. Might be a bully themselvesII. Sexual Abuse for ChildrenA. Demographics-a. 5% of people are sexually abused as minors as adultsb. men tend to abuse children more than womenc. abuse by siblings- difficult to identifyi. the age gap tends B. Effects of Sexual abuse a. Emotional effects- little kids that are depressed (more likely to be angry or guility)b. Suicide, academic problemsc. Symmetic symptoms- bodily symptoms, tummy aches and headachesC. Interviewing