Lecture 5CMS 357 1st Edition Lecture5 I. SOCIAL EXCHANGE THEORY A. Components of social exchangea. Economic theory of relationshipsb. Explain ways that people give and receive intimacy in their close relationshipsc. Basic idea is that the way you feel about your close relationships depends partly on your ability to maximize your rewards and minimize your costi. Types of rewards: love, security, economic, emotional support, financial support, instrumental support, network supportii. Cost: burden and stress to meet expectations, responsibility, time commitment, embarrassing, massive conflict d. Comparison Level are your expectationsi. What you expect those relationships to be like—what doesmine look like in comparison- compare your ideal and expectations and do they live up to that- Families should be supportive, should provide some financial support e. Comparison level for alternativesi. What alternatives can you get ii. Here are the relationships I think I can get, it is what my alternatives are iii. Example: “I think romantic relationships are supportive and relatively satisfying, but I don’t think I can get one of those relationships”iv. These levels may match but may notv. This is perceived by social exchange theory- affected by certain circumstances (in Alaska, you don’t have many alternatives than if you were a guy living in NYC with many alternative partners- but you could perceive you had a lot, “since you are great”- influence by what is around youvi. Based on self-esteemvii. In family situations- completely different than when dealing with friendshipsB. Investmentsa. How much you put into the relationships: Time, Emotions, Money-influence how you feel about the relationshipsb. How Social Exchange Worksi. Equation 1: Rewards- cost= outcomes (good minus the badis the outcome)ii. Equation 2: Outcomes- comparison level = satisfactioniii. Equation 3: Satisfaction – Comparison Level for Alternatives + Investment = Commitment - You put in investment- you feel like you put a lot into it so you might be more committed - If you don’t think you have a lot of alternatives you may be more committed even if you are not that happy iv. You could have a good family from everyone else’s perspective, but to you, you have higher expectationsC. Meanings of Intimacya. Explains how came you keep investing in the familyA. Self-Disclosure- you get more intimate the more you disclose to the other person, relationships get more close and intimate the more personal information that is exchanged, “peel back the onion to create more intimate relationship” 1. Genderi. varies based on gender, overall women disclose more than men, women disclose more negative ii. first date men do more self-disclosure than women HIGH CL and HIGH ClaLt- did not expect it and you would leave LOW CL and High CLALT- expected it and will leaveHigh CL and Low CLalt- did not expect and stay in relationshipsLow CL and Low CLalt- expected it and does not leave2. Partner relationships- disclosure generally is positive related to satisfaction—the happier you, you will disclose more, you feelcomfortable and secure to take the risk 3. Unhappy couples do disclose but most of the time are negative emotions4. Dual career couples tend do more self-disclosure (more to talk about in general)- don’t disclose because someone might think the partner might not understand nor care 5. Married women disclose more to their friends than married men do- men are less likely to talk to their guy friends about intimate things, men discuss most of their intimate feelings with their