CMS 357 1st Edition Lecture 7 Defining Roles A Fixed vs Interactive a Fixed sees roles as static and unchanging b Interactive roles are changing and constructive through communication B Position vs Person oriented a Position you can talk about your roles because of the position The DAD author figure holds this position because of his position in the family b Person oriented based on personality your making the role because of your individual personality traits C Role Expectations vs Performance a When you hold a certain role in the family there may be expectations for you b Performance and role expectation might match up or they might not i Dad loses the job the performance does not match with expectations ii Oldest child is suppose to set the standard for the youngest child D Significant vs Complimentary Others a Significant people are individuals you see as important b Complimentary can be significant others too helps create and enact your role you are a son or daughter you have complimentary others that are parents you are a wife because you have a husband c Your identity is affected by your relationship with others d When a family member passes away if you were a brother or a sister and now your not one anymore that is an identity change II Role Functions A Providing Gender Socialization and Sexual Needs before birth the people around us teaches us what it means to be a boy or a girl a Colors toys that we are given teaches us men are suppose to chase the women what activities do the children engage in clothing differences B Provide nurture and support a Moms are suppose to be the more nurturing ones while the dads provide more financial support b Men that are more expressive are more happy in their personal relationships c It is more satisfying when the men or women are able to be more interactive about the roles makes people happier d Models what behavior the children should follow when child is sick how much is family supposed to support each other can families be too supportive C Providing for Individual Development a Roles that we play in our family support us developing in some ways and do not support in other ways doesn t mean you are completely dependent but their relationship does affect you I b Survivor guilt parents do not want their children to leave home to help out the family The children feels really guilty c Example sitting down with my sister seeing all her college options D Providing for maintenance and management a Most of the time women organize family reunions write thank you notes keep the Facebook page updated kin keeping behaviors when a guy takes over these rules it is noticeable b Doing chores you figure out with your roles household tasks different for men and women men killing bugs fixing light bulb women cooking cleaning c Test it by saying who gets in trouble of this is not done tells you what the expectation is E Providing Basic Resources a Enacting roles provides resources Money shelter III Couple Types 1 Traditional couples tend to have traditionally general gender roles in terms of conventional values around the house taking men s last name interdependent effect each other behaviors share decision they influence each other moderate levels of conflict 2 Independent couples have less conventional values highly interdependent high conflict volatile conflicts we predict this because they rely on each other and are also nonconventional views of life 3 Separates tend to be somewhat conventional but are not interdependent low on interdependence take separate vacations have separate areas in the house have low conflict because they are not around each other as much IV Family Types 1 Closed Family fixed boundaries tend to require their needs filled by those within the family solid authority structure scheduled are fixed and predictable could be negative or could be not depending on particular familynurture and support will come from within the family 2 Open Family boundaries are really flexible encourage members to go outside the family to get their needs met and get stuff done not much censorship and more flexible authority structure providing nurturing and support might come from outside world not necessarily good or bad thing but different way to enact functions 3 Random Family disperse boundaries meaning not well defined Family members and non family members may share the same living space schedules are unpredictable social appropriateness is not a big deal