Lecture 18 CMS357 1st Edition A General Picture B Gender Differences II Coping with Dual Income Lifestyle A Spillover vs Crossover Spillover same individual individual s mood at work spills over to their home life slash mood at home affects work life Crossover from one individual to another individual when one partner s mood at work affects the other partner s mood at home B Coping Mechanisms a These do not mesh together always extremely easy i MAKE PLANS ii Talking iii Withdrawing pretending it is not there spending hours on Facebook social media hide at work until late iv Cognitive restructuring changing your outlook at perspective 1 Lower your expectations 2 Say I can do this a Helps both men and women get through stressful times but planning tends to be more helpful for women and withdrawing can be more helpful for men to deal with stress v Reallocating time I cant do my yoga if I have three test this week 1 Saying no to limit your stress III Childcare A Types a At Home parents do the child rearing b Family Day Care relatively small scale provided in the care giver s home having individual operating it can select this person based on their values and your own values abuse of physical or emotional neglect is more common nanny c Center care bigger childcare center more kids could have thirty 80 little kids structured schedule no one on one relationship with the person taking care of the child less likely to have abuse because more people around i These kids can deal with conflict better B Parent s Concerns a Some day care centers are not so good b Day cares differ in quality c Finding high quality childcare is difficult waiting list d Expensive e Daycare often has to be pieced together the hours Important Qualities of Daycare Facilities 1 Stable Staff a Is there a great deal of turnover b How are children informed and prepared for changes 2 Low staff to child ratio a Although experts disagree on the precise ratio most agree that the lower the ratio the better b 1994 federal guideline for centers infants 1 3 toddlers 1 4 3 6 years 1 8 federal guidelines for home based facilitates 3 Well Trained Staff a Because they are poorly paid its tough to find well trained people b The optimal training is in fields such as child development or psychology 4 Attention The Right Kind For the Right Age a Babies need someone to talk to them b One year olds need someone who will name things c Two year olds need someone will read d Older kids need an adult to supervise their interactions with other children 5 Appropriate Activities a Some academic activities b Some social interaction c Some community activities 6 Role for Parents a There should be the opportunity for a parental role b If not beware 7 References a A LIST OF REFERENCES SHOULD BE READILY AVAILABLE b If not beware