CFS 425 1st Edition Lecture 7 Outline of Current Lecture Intimacy Lecture online:- Sex and intimacy These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.Does sex strengthen a relationship? 1. Sometimes but often sex before intimacy2. Can create emotional distancing 3. Some enter into pre mature commitments in order to justify sex Sexual satisfaction In a relationship- American agrees that a happy sexual relationship is very important for a successful relationship/MarriageYou can have intimacy without sex but you cannot have satisfying sex without intimacy Sexual satisfaction is likely to be the result of- rather than the cause of relationship satisfaction.Sexual satisfaction is important it is less important than other things in the quality of an intimaterelationship1. Ease with which differences are handled 2. Extent to which the partners express affection3. Degree of commitment to the relationship 4. Amount of self-disclosure. Keeping it freshCouples may try different behaviors to keep their sex lives exciting fresh and fun. What is your biggest sexual concern in a relationship (real or imagined)? Sex & Relationships Performance/Measuring up/Self-Consciousness. Interest/Sustainability.• Physical Concerns• (T.B.C.) Being HurtBilingual- Understanding each other’s language of loveWhat’s the Hardest Thing to Talk About, Sexually?• Our different levels of interest in sex.• How often we should have sex.• Something specific I’d like to do differently or improve.The Problem: Different ideas about sex especially frequency and regularity.Communication - The meaning of sex -The physical intimacy -What is the love behind love making - The definition of sex (based on the person opinion) -Sex is just sex- Sex is exercise Performance Anxiety: How Do I Measure Up?Attitude about Causal sex Men are more permissive than women, and are more accepting of casual, uncommitted sex than women