1. Homogamy- we like those who like us whereas Complementarity is we tend to like others who exhibit desirable qualities that we wish we had.2. Functional Complementarity is we are the perfect matches basically he/ she compliments me. Example :I can be an anger person and rowdy, but when my boyfriend is around he calms me down and I’m more relaxed. Complimenting each other personalities3. Mate selection- it happens with accuracy and because we carry psychic function for each other.4. Emotional/ Psychological Complementarity- You may be the person I want to be. We like people that have personalities or certain characteristics we wish we had ourselves. We look for something we might not have in ourselves.5. Intergenerational Connection- Certain people carry unresolved emotional issues that they had with their parents to new relationships.6. Example: Never was very close or affectionate with your parents, so you wont really know how to show that to your partner. That carried on to relationships with other people.7. Fatal Attraction- Say you were drawn to something about your partner when you met them that was appealing and attractive. But later on it gets really annoying to you.8. Attachment theory- closeness is a survival need9. Attachment styles- an infants leaned orientation towards relationship with others10. Biochemical Theory- Brain scans show that when you look at a picture of someone you are in love with the parts of your brain that are activated are the same as those activated when eating chocolate, taking cocaine, or gambling Love Physiology11. Imprinting: Evolution, genetics – even smells - as well as psychological experiences, can trigger a romantic reaction to another person.12. Love Map- Pattern and ideal idea of our partner.13. Arousal Theory- occurs when arousal caused by one-event fuels stronger emotional reactions to a second, unrelated event.14. Reciprocity- Like those who like you15. Balance Theory-suggests that we prefer consistency and symmetry in our relationships so we like those who like us, and dislike those who dislikeus.16. Desirability- Physical Attraction * Probability of Attraction17. Social Exchange Theory-The main idea behind social exchange is everyone tries to maximize the rewards they obtain from a relationship and try to minimize the costs.18. Equity Theory-Even if personal balance of costs to benefits is good you will be dissatisfied if you perceive your partner is getting more out of it than you. Fairness = strong social norm.19. Complementarity: You May Be the Person I Want To Become20. Attachment Theory: Closeness Is a Survival NeedLikingProximity- We tend to like those who live and work near us. Proximity Is Rewarding; Distance Is CostlyFamiliarity – Repeated contactSimilarity – share our same point of viewMatching HypothesisWe actively seek individuals who are most like ourselves (attractive wise). This compromise is necessary because of fear of rejection from a more attractive person.Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of LoveIntimacy- Feelings of warmth, understanding, communication, support, and sharingPassion- Emotions and sexual desiresDecision/ commitment- Decision to stay in a relationship and to work to maintain itThere are different love types:Explorer (Dopamine System)- Creative/ spontaneous/ EnergeticBuilder (serotonin)- Calm/social/popularDirector (testosterone)- Direct/ decisive/Completive/ambitiousNegotiator (Estrogen) – Flexible/compassionate/ imaginativeStyles of love by Lee’s Six (types of relationship)Eros - emphasizes passion, eroticism, and sexual energy. Like sensual and attracts to beauty.Ludus- playing the fieldand seek many sexual conquests. Love is a game(game knows game). They rather play a game than fall in loveStorge- Love between companionsAgape- Selfless all giving love. Putting someone’s importance before your own.Pragma- select romantic partners based on rational, practical criteria. It is more of a logical approach.Mania- Mania lovers are insecure in love and obsessively cling to their partners, sleepless nights/ pain and anxiety when away from partners.Life cycle of a relationshipAttraction- what we see? How the person looksBuilding- working towards the personCommunication/self disclosure-Either the relationship continues or it declines and endsTwo themes with the Attachment theory1. Anxiety/Fear over abandonment –worry that others will find us unworthy and leave us2. Avoidance/Fear of intimacy –lack of comfort and trust with which we accept intimacy with others.Two-factor theory of romantic love(a) Physiological arousal that is paired with(b) The belief that another person is the cause of/connected to your arousal.What falling in love is like?Earth shattering‘Trance like’BeguilingAmazingExhilaratingSudden and intenseTrepidationElatedGiddyCFS 425 1st Edition Exam #1 Study Guide Outline of Current Lecture Study Guide What to Study: Topics we have discuss so far - Introduction to Lust, Love & Relationships: Attachment and the Need to Belong- What Do We Seek In Relationships: Attraction and Intimacy- The Mating Game- What Is This Thing Called Love?- Getting the Love You Want- Relationship DynamicsThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.1. Homogamy- we like those who like us whereas Complementarity is we tend to like others who exhibit desirable qualities that we wish we had.2. Functional Complementarity is we are the perfect matches basically he/ she compliments me. Example :I can be an anger person and rowdy, but when my boyfriend is around he calms me down and I’m more relaxed. Complimenting each other personalities 3. Mate selection- it happens with accuracy and because we carry psychic function for each other. 4. Emotional/ Psychological Complementarity- You may be the person I want to be. We like people that have personalities or certain characteristics we wish we had ourselves. We look for something we might not have in ourselves. 5. Intergenerational Connection- Certain people carry unresolved emotional issues that they had with their parents to new relationships.6. Example: Never was very close or affectionate with your parents, so you wont really know how to show that to your partner. That carried on to relationships with other people. 7. Fatal Attraction- Say you were drawn to something about your partner when you met them that was appealing and