CFS 425 1st Edition Lecture 9Outline of Current Lecture Relationships Lecture online:Sexuality Relationship Stresses and Strains •These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.Sexuality 1. Appreciate your sexuality 2. Learn to like your body3. Be Selfish 4. Be present 5. Examine your attitudeSelf-Esteem- may be a gauge that measures the quality of the relationship with othersPeople with low-self esteem • They underestimate their partners’ love for them;• They are less optimistic their love will last;• They perceive ‘disregard’ where none exists;• They respond less constructively to conflictRelationships stress and strain 1. Jealousy2. Betrayal3. Lies4. Forgiveness5. Relationship ConflictJealousy Is the unhappy combination of hurt anger and fear when people face the potential loss od a valued relationship to a real or imagined rival Two types - Reactive jealousy (“fait accompli”): occurs in response to an actual threat to a valued relationship.Example- when they realize a partner has been unfaithful…- Suspicious jealousy: occurs when one’s partner hasn’t misbehaved, and one’s suspicions do not fit the facts at hand Some feel we should do away with the notion that jealousy is a sign of “true love”:Jealousy is neither generous nor loving. It’s inherently selfish, and it emerges from dependency and fear.Neo-cortex- rational thinking Limbic- emotional feeling Hypothalamus-tells the body how to respond to the emotional state Betrayal- any action that violates the norms of trust, loyalty, respect, and trustworthiness that support intimate relationshipsInfidelity Two Types:- Sexual Infidelity: sexual intercourse; extradyadic sexual activity- Emotional Infidelity: “emotional resources such as romantic love, time, and attention to someone else.”Reasons Top Two Reasons– Dissatisfaction with current relationship– Boredom – need for excitementOther Reasons– Enhance own self-esteem– Revenge due to jealousy or anger– Sexual