Interpersonal Communication:- Inter=between- Personal=people- Communication that connects us together  the essence of being human- The study of messages exchanged between people.- Dyad  Two people. N=2- Lectures are not interpersonal because it’s not between two people. It’s one at many. Interpersonal communication terms/ideas - The bond of all companionship is conversation- Relational judgments/messageso Intimacy/affiliation- smiling at someone to communicate how you feel about them Liking or disliking / love or hate – things we have to communicate with each othero Social Control/Dominance – who is in charge- Commitmento The effort put into the relationship to be sure it continues - Interdependento Mutual dependency on each other. We both rely on each other on some level. o Lacking interdependence, the actions of the other person don’t affect you at all. - Empathy o being able to understand your emotions and communicate about them- Normso Rules about accepted and appropriate behavior o Ex: engaging in profanity between different people you know - Roles- Sex and Gendero Biological sex (male/female), Gender (masculine, feminine, agender)- Sex/Gender disparityo The fact that men tend to have more power in societyo Force (Sexism – institutionalized)o Control of resources o Control of ideology o Unequal social obligations (like caretaking) - Self-disclosure  Primary pathway to close relationships Voluntarily sharing personal information Trading informationo Reciprocal (two way street)o Gradual  Sharing too much too soon can ruin a relationshipo Informative o Requires Trusto Riskyo Relational Maintenance  Keep relationships goingo- Supporto Being a good listener, being there is incredibly important - Spending time togetherMiller and Steinberg’s (1975) [Pg 259 of tubbs book] characteristics of high quality relationships. - Information = Personal (psychological), not cultural or sociological  Three categories of information, Personal information was the hallmark of high quality relationships. We need toknow personal qualities of other people. Self-disclosure. - Rules= set by individuals in relationship, not tradition. People choose the rules that work for them, not dictated to them by others. Relationships are best when custom made for the individuals involved. - Roles= Individual, not situational. Personalized and individualized. Following prescribed pattern makes for poor relationships- Choices= behavior, individual, not group. The group that is being referred to is ‘family.’ Family usually wants to pressure you to behave in a certain way. - *Make your own decisions, only do what other people are suggesting when you also want to do it*Relationship DevelopmentState Models- Assumptiono Characteristics of individuals drive relationship formation and stability. o What makes us different, what makes us special- Factors affecting attractiono Proximity (BIGGEST one)o Similarity (Same attracts same) o Complementary Needso Temporary states/situation (Variable states of mind) Negative states of mind are good for emotional development -> You know who you can trust- Anxiety – Causes us to seek out others to quell our nervousness- Isolation – Not the human way. If we’re isolated, we want to seek out social interaction- Low Self-esteem – Getting broken up with can cause low self esteem- Perceived reciprocity of liking – Even exchange of feelings. We like people who we think like us.Stage Models- Rarest kind of relationship is best friendships- Assumptionso Different communication behaviors are enacted as relationships develop over timeo Whether the partners can negotiate each of these stages satisfactorily determinesrelationship development o Relationship definitions are negotiated through communication- Content and relationship messageso Every message exchanged has both componentso Content: The objective, verifiable, surface level meaning of a message o Relationship Messages: often implicit statements a communication makes about the status of a