CMS 357 1st Edition Lecture 4 II Family Rules Create regularity and coordinate meaning Manteca feedback or change feedback Figuring out the rules can be really informative and help explain why we lean a certain way A Create Regularity B Types of Rules Can talk about school but do not bring up sex with their children Money finances don t talk about Cursing respect age differences How you talk about things words you use tone of voice When you talk about things the environment and social context makes a difference Who don t swear or talk about sex in front of grandma C Are maintained via communication Maintenance getting the look or nudge under the table if you break the rule Change grandma says the word or brings up the topic mom says cleave D Vary in importance One could be observing how they respond to an indirect example E Are governed by metarules When you are the man of the house These rules apply to kids but not adults Top of the hierarchy create the rules Rules more strict at moms than dad more strictly enforced in other area Create regulatory and tell us about meetings III Family Stories Represent the family history and represent rule Regulate meaning Appreciate what you have and what your parents provide for you Guys growing up and being leaders o Men in US culture are suppose to be providers o Ideal stories what a family should look like here is what family SHOULD do IV Family Communication Networks A Chain next person tells the nxt person Could be hierarchal immediate family and then extended family B Y the parents tell tell the other kids the Y is more hierarchical C Wheel one person in the center tells everyone one HUB person D All channel everyone blabs to everyone no specific pattern Siblings would have a close relationship if the parents didn t feed all the information manipulative mom will tell the other sibling that sibling 1 said something bad says you re my favorite of all the siblings this is a dysfunctional change the hub
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