HD 204 1nd Edition Lecture 18 Outline of Last Lecture I. Across the Family Life CycleII. Goals/Functions of RitualsIII. Couple RitualsIV. Intergenerational RitualsV. Managing RitualsVI. What is IntimacyVII. Family Intimacy Outline of Current Lecture II. Development of IntimacyIII. CommitmentIV. Self-DisclosureV. Intimacy and Sex in Partner RelationshipsCurrent Lecture- Development of Intimacy:o Limits of intimacy reflect how families manage: Dialectical tensions, boundaries, and biosocial issues.o Need for and comfort with intimate ties change over time. Altman’s & Taylor’s Social Penetration Model.- Orientation (first impression)Explatory affective exchange (no commitment)Affective exchange (close)Stability. Limitation:- To linear and not realistic for unvoluntary families.o Interactions that promote intimacy involve: Confirmation. Commitment. Self-disclosure. Sexual communication. Forgiveness.- Commitment:o “Intense singular energy directed toward sustaining a relationship.” Degree to which we are willing to work for the continuation of the relationship.These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.o Internally and externally imposed constraints. Personal dedication-internal devotion to a relationship. Ought-to and have-to stay together.o Relationships turning point. Direct, dates. Indirect.- Secret tests.- Self-Disclosure:o Revealing information about oneself involves a risk.o Trust in a partner is the foundation for self-disclosure.o Results in intimacy when the partner responds with validation, understanding, and empathy.o Intimacy is an “experimental out of interpersonal, transactional, intimacy processreflecting two principal components; self revealing and partner responsiveness.”o “Occurs when one partner intentionally tells another personal/private thing about themselves that is unable to be discovered in a different manner.” Involves risk. Other is responsive = intimacy. Influenced by family of origin and culture.o Dimensions of disclosure: Breadth; superficial information shared with many people early in any relationship. Depth; significant information shared with few people later on in a relationship.o Partner relationship. Responsiveness of partner promote intimacy. Disclosure of negative feeling often met with rejecting or disconfirming messages. Women are more likely to disclose.o Parent-child relationship. Children disclose with moms more. Those perceived as warm and nurturing.o Cohesions and adaptability.o Nature of topic.o Self-disclosure occurs during: Debriefing conversations. Developmental or unpredictable stresses. Intimation sequences, cues for need to disclose.o Sibling Disclosure: Increases as children age (emerges in adolescence).- Learn to share feelings.- Protect siblings’ confidence. All family disclosure depend on family level of cohesions and flexibility.- Intimacy and Sex in Partner Relationships:o Sex is both a form of communication and a reflection of communication. Sexuality and behavior reflect gender socialization.o Sexual scripts: Expectation for how to behave sexually.- Who; age, race.- What; what’s acceptable.- When; privacy.- Where; bedroom, car.- Why; love, pleasure,