HD 204 1nd Edition Lecture 13 Outline of Last Lecture I. Relation CultureII. Communication Pattern: RulesIII. ExamplesIV. Adapting RulesV. Importance of RulesVI. Beyond Communication Rules Outline of Current Lecture II. Secrets in Family LifeIII. Types of SecretsIV. Functions of SecretsV. Factors Influencing EffectCurrent Lecture- Secrets in Family Life:o Secrets includes deliberately withholding information from family members.o Interactions are shaped by how information is shared.o Secrets create reinforce boundaries.o Can be damaging to family functioning. - Types of Secrets:o Sweet, fun/surprise secret like the sex of a baby.o Essential, define/promote necessary boundaries.o Toxic, maintain harmful patterns.o Dangerous, could put someone in emotional or physical harm.- Functions of Secrets:o Bonding, creates cohesiveness.o Evaluation, to help avoid negative judgment.o Maintenance, to protect family from stressors.o Privacy, no one else’s business.o Defense, keeping secrets from outside to protect.o Communication, information is withheld because they don’t talk.o Protection, to protect others from unpleasant information and yourself from the reaction of family.o Uneven power dynamic, used to manipulate and undermine those who don’t know.These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.- Factors Influencing Effect:o Location, who holds the secret; one person holds the secret from everyone. Between certain members within generations can be less damaging, and across generation can be more damaging. Across family boundaries and secrets that everyone knows.o Timing. Developmental period. Transition period, rights of
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