HD 204 1nd Edition Lecture 16 Outline of Last Lecture I. Relational Maintenance II. Martial Relational StrategiesIII. Gottman’s Magic RatioIV. Maintenance in Other Family RelationshipsV. Relational CurrenciesVI. Types of Relational CurrenciesVII. Meanings and CurrenciesVIII. 5 Love Languages Outline of Current Lecture II. BidsIII. Responding to BidsIV. Gottman’s VideoV. RitualsCurrent Lecture- Bids:o The way a person expresses what they need in that moment.o Examples: Do you like chocolate milkshakes? A way to ask someone on a date. *A hug* physical touch and connection. You think to call me. Bid for attention. Hey… could mean anything. *A sigh.* Indicator of unhappiness. I’m exhausted. Need for relief, a foot rub.o Relationships commonly use bids.o They are all symbolic.- Responding to Bids:o Turning toward. You look tired; go lay down, and I’ll do it. Noticing the bid and responding to it.o Turn away. Have you seen my jacket? Response: we need to buy milk. Not noticing the bid or not mindful.These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. Not usually mean-spirited, but has a negative effect on a relationship.o Turning against. If you think I’m going to do it, your nuts. Refusing bid.- Gottman’s Video:o Couples strive to “score points” in their relationship.- Rituals:o Personal definition: a repeated act which promotes comfort or tradition.o Repeated behaviors or event that involve. Communication = symbolism. Weddings and funerals = emotion. Baptism and graduation = transformation. Bachelor party and thanksgiving = preparation.o Serves as ongoing maintenance and relational functions in the family.o Not all members have to participate.o Not all are
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