HD 204 1nd Edition Lecture 18 Outline of Last Lecture I Across the Family Life Cycle II Goals Functions of Rituals III Couple Rituals IV Intergenerational Rituals V Managing Rituals VI What is Intimacy VII Family Intimacy Outline of Current Lecture II Development of Intimacy III Commitment IV Self Disclosure V Intimacy and Sex in Partner Relationships Current Lecture Development of Intimacy o Limits of intimacy reflect how families manage Dialectical tensions boundaries and biosocial issues o Need for and comfort with intimate ties change over time Altman s Taylor s Social Penetration Model Orientation first impression Explatory affective exchange no commitment Affective exchange close Stability Limitation To linear and not realistic for unvoluntary families o Interactions that promote intimacy involve Confirmation Commitment Self disclosure Sexual communication Forgiveness Commitment o Intense singular energy directed toward sustaining a relationship Degree to which we are willing to work for the continuation of the relationship These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute o Internally and externally imposed constraints Personal dedication internal devotion to a relationship Ought to and have to stay together o Relationships turning point Direct dates Indirect Secret tests Self Disclosure o Revealing information about oneself involves a risk o Trust in a partner is the foundation for self disclosure o Results in intimacy when the partner responds with validation understanding and empathy o Intimacy is an experimental out of interpersonal transactional intimacy process reflecting two principal components self revealing and partner responsiveness o Occurs when one partner intentionally tells another personal private thing about themselves that is unable to be discovered in a different manner Involves risk Other is responsive intimacy Influenced by family of origin and culture o Dimensions of disclosure Breadth superficial information shared with many people early in any relationship Depth significant information shared with few people later on in a relationship o Partner relationship Responsiveness of partner promote intimacy Disclosure of negative feeling often met with rejecting or disconfirming messages Women are more likely to disclose o Parent child relationship Children disclose with moms more Those perceived as warm and nurturing o Cohesions and adaptability o Nature of topic o Self disclosure occurs during Debriefing conversations Developmental or unpredictable stresses Intimation sequences cues for need to disclose o Sibling Disclosure Increases as children age emerges in adolescence Learn to share feelings Protect siblings confidence All family disclosure depend on family level of cohesions and flexibility Intimacy and Sex in Partner Relationships o Sex is both a form of communication and a reflection of communication Sexuality and behavior reflect gender socialization o Sexual scripts Expectation for how to behave sexually Who age race What what s acceptable When privacy Where bedroom car Why love pleasure procreation