HD 204 1st Edition Lecture 2 Outline of Last Lecture I II III IV V What is Family Marriage Divorce Rates and Remarriage Children and Other Economic Issues Outline of Current Lecture I Communication II Primary functions Current Lecture I Communication a What is communication We convey messages through symbols Transactional process Shared meanings the meaning of I ll be there in a few minutes could be different to different people Dynamic always changing Within intimate relationships we cannot help but convey messages to each other b Levels of communication Messages occur at two different levels These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute Content actual words Relationship the underlying message o Non verbal cues o They give our partner more information about how to interpret the content o They also tell our partner This is how I see myself This is how I see you This is how I see you seeing me Metacommunication Clarifies and establishes rules about communication Communication about communication Meanings and messages Shared meaning coordinating verbal and non verbal communications What influences meaning o Age o Race o Health o Religion o Socialization o Birth order o Etc Negotiating and coordinating meanings c Communication and the Family System d Characteristics of communications II Listening skills Speaking skills Self disclosure Clarity Staying on topic Respect and regard Primary functions a Cohesion Disengaged b Adaptability Connected Cohesive Enmeshed Rigid Structured Flexible Chaotic c Primary Functions Cohesion Cohesion is the way families balance separateness and connectedness Enmeshed Extreme closeness High dependence Little individuality Cohesive Closeness Loyalty and togetherness Some individuality Connected Sense of belonging involvement Some independence Tolerance of individuality Disengaged Extreme separateness High independence Little involvement d Primary functions Adaptability Adaptability the way families balance stability and change Chaotic No leadership High levels of change Inconsistent rules roles Flexible Shared decision making Significant change Shifting rules roles Structured Limited shared decision making Moderate change Stable roles rules Rigid Authoritarian leadership Low levels of change Strict roles rules