HD 204 1st Edition Lecture 9 Outline of Last Lecture I. IntimacyII. CommitmentIII. Self-disclosureIV. Intimacy and Sex in partner relationshipsV. Parent- child communication about sexOutline of Current Lecture I. IntimacyII. JealousyIII. DeceptionCurrent LectureI. Intimacya. Contributing Factors- Effort- Putting time and energy into the relationship- Gottman’s Love Maps Favorite/ least favorite relatives Current worries/ Concerns Best Friends Most stressful childhood events Dreams and aspirations- Sacrifice- Setting aside self-interest Examples Relocating for partners careerThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. Working extra shifts while partner goes back to school Quitting smoking Skipping a road trip to attend siblings high school graduation- Forgiveness- Involves Acknowledge other person’s actions were harmful Transforming psychological state (negative to positive) Offering reconciliation Renegotiating relationship Obligatory nature of family relationships motivates us to forgive Some transgressions are too damaging to forgiveb. Inhibiting Factors- Fears of intimacy- Merger: Fearful of loss of identity or boundaries- Exposure: Low self esteem/ exposes weaknesses/ inadequacies- Attack: distrusting of others, feel they might be attacked in some way if they self-disclose- AbandonmentII. Jealousy- Perception that valued relationship is threatened- Results in distancing, negativity, avoidance, violence- Couples- SiblingsIII. Deception- Intentionally withholding information or communicating false information- Violates expectations of commitment- Loss of trust- Leads to marital
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