- No outside Support- Regular emotional outburstsb. Conversation OrientationAddress conflictSeek outside supportFrequently express negative feelingsHD 204 1st Edition Lecture 13Outline of Last Lecture I. Decision MakingII. PowerOutline of Current LectureI. Conflict and Family Communication PatternsII. Gottman’s Conflict TypesIII. Gottman’s Four Horseman of the ApocalypseIV. Warning SignsV. Unsolvable ConflictVI. Destructive ConflictCurrent LectureI. Conflict and Family Communication Patternsa. Conformity OrientationAvoid Conflict- No outside Support- Regular emotional outburstsb. Conversation Orientation- Address conflict- Seek outside support- Frequently express negative feelings II. Gottman’s Conflict Typesa. Stable couples- Validating- Violate- Conflict Avoidingb. Unstable Couples- Hostile/ engaged- Hostile/ disengagedThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.III. Gottman’s Four Horseman of the Apocalypsea. Criticism:- “You always ignore me” attacking the flaws directlyb. Contempt:- Delivering a message by being superior, direct insult, name calling,“I am a better parent than you”, insulting labelc. Defensiveness:- “it’s not my problem, it’s your problem” counter attackd. Stonewalling:- Withdrawal, attempt to calmIV. Warning Signsa. Things become more negative than positive – 20x more positive than negative thingsV. Unsolvable Conflict: Solvable vs. Unsolvablea. Unresolved conflict can lead to Psychological/ physical separationb. Hopelessnessc. Violenced. Tension throughout family systemVI. Destructive Conflicta. Covert conflict- Not really visible, hiddenb. Overt conflict- Visible, yelling, fightingc. Relies on one of the following communication strategies- Denial- Disqualification- Displacement- Disengagement- Pseudomutualityd. Overt Destructive Conflict- Use of verbal and physical aggression- Goal is compliance- Linked to issues of power- Becomes a pattern- Childrene. Partner Destructive Conflict- Women make up vast majority of reported cases- Men experience barriers to reportingf. Common Couple Violence- Abusive- Violent- Aggressive- Combativeg. Couple violence- Negative Strategies- Verbal aggression Threats, hate terms, gunny sacking, non verbal messages- Physical Violence 1 and 6 marriagesh. Mothers are more likely to abuse children than fathers- Abuse parents tend to: value punishment more, rate their childrenas more difficult, use inconsistent discipline- Effects: psychological, physical and