HD 204 1st Edition Lecture 9 Outline of Last Lecture I Intimacy II Commitment III Self disclosure IV Intimacy and Sex in partner relationships V Parent child communication about sex Outline of Current Lecture I Intimacy II Jealousy III Deception Current Lecture I Intimacy a Contributing Factors Effort Putting time and energy into the relationship Gottman s Love Maps Favorite least favorite relatives Current worries Concerns Best Friends Most stressful childhood events Dreams and aspirations Sacrifice Setting aside self interest Examples Relocating for partners career These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute Working extra shifts while partner goes back to school Quitting smoking Skipping a road trip to attend siblings high school graduation Forgiveness Involves Acknowledge other person s actions were harmful Transforming psychological state negative to positive Offering reconciliation Renegotiating relationship Obligatory nature of family relationships motivates us to forgive Some transgressions are too damaging to forgive b Inhibiting Factors II III Fears of intimacy Merger Fearful of loss of identity or boundaries Exposure Low self esteem exposes weaknesses inadequacies Attack distrusting of others feel they might be attacked in some way if they self disclose Abandonment Jealousy Perception that valued relationship is threatened Results in distancing negativity avoidance violence Couples Siblings Deception Intentionally withholding information or communicating false information Violates expectations of commitment Loss of trust Leads to marital dissatisfaction
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