Psychology 451 Lecture 20Outline of Last LectureI. HappinessOutline of Current Lecture II. Chapter 5III. Chapter 6IV. Love Current Lecture- Chapter 5: Pursuit of Happinesso Buddhism and Stoicism teach that striving for external goods and to make the world conform to your wishes is always striving after the wind (83)o Success is often disappointing: more a relief, closureo Formula: “people win at the game of life by achieving high status and good reputation, cultivating friendships, finding best mates, accumulating resources, rearing their childrento be successful at life’s game” (83) Missing happiness!o Most of pleasure in achieving a goal comes from certain rewards you feel for making progress toward the goal and actually very little pleasure comparatively is derived from finishing the goal (college graduation)- Video: Pursuit of Happiness- Flowo Physical pleasure (eating/sex) and immersion: flow There’s a clear challenge that fully engages your attention; you have skills to meet challenge; you get immediate feedback about how you are doing at each step (95)o Tasty food over buffet!o Gratification over pleasure When we enter a state of flow, hard work becomes effortless. We want to keep exerting ourselves, honing our skills, using our strengths (97)o Doing vs. having- Chapter 6: loveo Freud/Skinner united in belief that highly affectionate parenting damages children (108)These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute. Actually, Freud said parents should not be too leniento Bowlby and Harlow work with children/monkeyso If you want children to grow up healthy and independent you should hold them, hug them, cuddle them and love them (114)- Must know/be taught the rule sin order to break them- There is a TRUE myth about love: passionate love lasts your whole lifeo Compassionate: grows over timeo Passionate: like a drug- Kinds of loveo Platonic love: ladder of beauty bodies, one body, person’s soul, human spirit, ideas and philosophyo Caritas (charity): intense benevolence and good willo Agape: selfless spiritual sexless loveo Love is a kind of insanity, and many people have, while crazed with passion, ruined their lives and those of others (131)- People who have less social constraints, bonds, obligations are more likely to kill themselves- Move from selfish to generative