Slide 1The Gender of Friendship and DatingThe Trouble with FriendshipDefining friendshipGender and FriendshipsGender Differences in FriendshipGender Differences in FriendshipTheoretical Perspective on Friendship DifferencesTheoretical Perspective on Friendship DifferencesConstraints on FriendshipGender Similarities in FriendshipGender and FriendshipFriendship in a Global PerspectiveGay Men and FriendshipThe Rules of AttractionDatingGoing Steady to Hooking UpMarriage and Collectivist CulturesThe Gender of LoveFeminization of loveThe Gender of LoveThe Gender of LoveBut What Is This “Crazy Little Thing Called Love”?Studying LoveStudying LoveLove and AttachmentAttachment theory of loveWheel Theory of LoveReiss’s Wheel Theory of LoveHOW DOES GENDER IMPACT THE PEOPLE YOU SPEND YOUR TIME WITH?Chapter SixQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsThe Gender of Friendship and DatingQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsThis chapter examines significant relationships outside of the nuclear familyNetworks of friends and kin often overlapKin refers to the people to whom an individual is related either by actual blood or through symbolic tiesSome societies hold friends as the highest form of loveFriendships have two unique features: Choice and obligationThe Trouble with FriendshipQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsSociological research has not focused on friendships, (Mis)understanding of friendships as purely a personal choice Difficulty in defining who are friendsHowever, the people we call friends and our types of friendships are often constrained by social structures (gender, class, race)Defining friendship Questioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsIt is characterized as voluntary and altruisticIt involves sentiment and sociability A common definition of friendship in sociological literature is “a voluntary, informal, and personal relationship” (Allan, 1990, p. 17), Many friendships may form in formal settings, such as the workplace, and some friendships exist only within the context of those settings.It can be a relationship between status equals, two people who are on roughly the same social level.Gender and FriendshipsQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsWho’s better at friendship, women or men? Feminization of friendshipAnglo-European societies emphasize intimacy, trust, caring, and nurturing – all associated with femininityHistorically, the hierarchy was reversed and male friendships were seen as the modelCharacteristics were bravery, loyalty, duty, heroismMen’s lives were more public and therefore seen as more important than women’s private sphere pursuitsGender Differences in FriendshipThere are similarities in what both men and women desire from friends: intimacy, acceptance, trust, helpThe difference lies in the type of friendshipWomen’s friendships tend to be “_____Intimate confidante with whom to share feelingsMen’s are more “____________”Someone with whom to share activities and interestsThe differences between self-disclosure in friendshipMen are less likely to disclose intimate information about themselves to their friends than are womenGender Differences in FriendshipQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsThe differences between self-disclosure in friendshipMen are less likely to disclose intimate information about themselves to their friends Men are not as good at verbal intimacy, however their intimacy involves nonverbal cues and expressionsWomen are more uncomfortable when their friendships lack intimate self-disclosure women are more comfortable with physical affection with their friends and feel they are better able to understand their friends through nonverbal communicationTheoretical Perspective on Friendship DifferencesSocialization is the primary explanation used to explain differences between men’s and women’s friendships. Lillian Rubin, psychoanalytic theoristWomen’s first relationship is with a woman (mother), whose behavior girls can emulate Men are expected to separate from their mother, create stronger ego boundaries in menHegemonic masculinity sets a certain bar that men must meet to prove their masculinityDefines masculinity as competitive and rationalRubin’s work found that men commonly associated male friendship with homosexualityTheoretical Perspective on Friendship DifferencesQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsSocial network theoryMen and women develop different types of friendships because of the social structure of their livesGender is a key structural influence on the number, quality, and significance of friendshipsConstraints on FriendshipQuestioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration 2e by Robyn Ryle © 2015 SAGE PublicationsGeography, work, race, class and gender all dictate with whom we can become friendsSocial segregation is the separation of a realm of social life into different groups on the basis of a given categoryResidential segregation is dictated by where one lives, especially by race and classSegregation in work shows that men have more access to networks; women tend to have smaller networksGender Similarities in FriendshipSocial network theory of gender claims that gender is a residual effect of the network in which a person is embeddedWomen's friendships are determined by whether they work and their socioeconomic class, not just their genderSingle men tend to be more involved with their male friends than are married menMarried men disclose less to their friends than their single counterparts When researching longer-lasting friendships, differences between men and women disappearThe differences we see in research may be affected by methods used (self-reports of research subjects)Gender and FriendshipResearch by Karen Walker: Examines ongoing construction of gender and friendship in everyday lifeTries to understand cultural expectations of friendshipResults??25% of women in her study reported not sharing information with their friendsWalker concludes that social class
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