Chapter 5 Intrapersonal Communication Internally communicating with yourself whether below our level of awareness or not If you can communicate ideas beliefs morals and feelings to yourself than you can more easily communicate them to others Self Talk Intrapersonally communicating within yourself shapes our attitudes 1 Inner speech silent spoken language that generates thoughts while creating meaning Internal whisper automatic nonverbal reactions reminds us what we need to do a b Behavior feelings self esteem stress levels o Children do not develop internalized speech until around age 9 when they can begin to conceptualize or think abstractly By the age of 13 people have full inner speech and can begin to think rhetorically Rhetorical thinking is the ability to manipulate and change your ideas depending on the context 1 Self Concept Your perception of yourself such as your personality traits physical characteristics values goals etc a Acquired from your family religion media friends teachers those of value to you b Four areas of self esteem i Physical how you perceive your body ii Moral Ethical how you evaluate your behavior as right from wrong iii Family views on familial relationships iv Social how you regard yourself in social situations c Determines what you say and how you will say it to people world is against you avoiding competition avoidance of social situations e Psychological Vulture one who attacks a persons psychological weaknesses i Intelligence I m dumb ii Creativity I can t write a story I can t sing like does iii Relationship I can t make friends iv Physical I m too short too fat too thin v Sexual No one wants to be in a relationship with me b c I m not sexy i Higher levels of self esteem more comfortable in communicative settings and vice versa d Signs of a weak sense of self sensitive to criticism refuse flattery critical blaming others feelings of persecution 2 Self Love Accepting yourself as a worthy person b c you want to accepting yourself for who you are and not caring if other people cannot do the same Cognitive Processing Comprehending organizing and sorting of ideas and how we process these ideas in terms of our values attitudes and beliefs 1 Values what we think is of positive or negative worth 2 Attitudes predispositions 3 Beliefs convictions Cognitive Dissonance Imbalance between your attitudes values beliefs and actions Guilty Conscience Fear that we are going to get caught doing something we perceive as immoral The Self 1 Self Confidence Positively perceiving yourself 2 Real Self What you think of yourself when you re being most honest about your interests thoughts emotions and needs a Usually changing reason for why you always question your decisions 3 Ideal Self Who you would like yourself to be a Usually significant other in your life puts these ideas into your head 4 Public Self Who you perceive yourself to be to others 5 Theory of Self a 4 Aspects i Spiritual What we think feel ii Material Our possessions and surroundings iii Social Interactions with others iv Physical Physical Being b Self evolves from our interactions with others and how we take these actions and mold them into our self thought At any time we can become a different person than who we thought we were c Situational Can be different people when you are in different social settings Can understand yourself and who you are through your Johari Window determines your perception of yourself and how it affects how you communicate with yourself And also displays how others perceive you based on your willingness to reveal information Need Drives Affect communication b c they determine how we think feel express inspires us and how we react to how others express their need drives 1 Survival Reflexive actions that we instinctively use to ensure our existence a Calling for help ducking pleading 2 Pleasure Seeking The need to succeed and communicate the success to others for appraisal a Can find this in satisfying our own needs or the needs of others or by fulfilling long or short term goals 3 Security Seeks equilibrium and balance instead of lack of control or anxiety 4 Territoriality Places that make us feel secure and protected Anxiety Communication Apprehension Perceived threat of danger negative intrapersonal messages as they specifically relate to pleasure and security needs 1 Biological Response Need to protect yourself from danger fight or flight reaction 2 Personality Response Perfectionists have higher levels of anxiety 3 Overall Stress Levels Fear of failure Communication Apprehension Speech anxiety Feel uncomfortable not just during public speaking but anytime where speech is necessary Comes from heredity imbalance of brain chemicals being a natural introvert social conditioning imitating the behaviors that are observed in others Help 1 Skill training Increasing oral communication skills learning how to organize a speech continue a conversation or participating in groups 2 Systematic Desensitization Taught how to relax through continuous exposure to the fear 3 Cognitive Modification Changing negative thoughts to positive ones 4 Willingness to Communicate Willing to take risks analyze communication and make adjustments 5 Drug Therapy Take medication to relieve the anxiety Role of Culture Social Orientation Basis for identity nationality race gender sexual orientation and religion Aspects of Culture that Affect the Self 1 Self Credentialing Self Humbling Verbal Societies Emphasis is placed on drawing attention to or boasting about one s accomplishments Self Credentialing Lowering oneself via modest talk verbal restraints and use of self deprecation Self Humbling 2 Relationship to the Spirit World Nature and Other Living Things Cultural patterns tell people how to get in touch with the spiritual nature and living world Also believing in gd helps boost self image 3 Doing Being Orientation to Life Achievement oriented based on financial gains obtaining the respect of others through accomplishments Concept of Self is based on what other people think of their deeds Doing Orientation Striving for life goals but not discussing the accomplishments Being orientation 4 Attitudes towards Others Some societies have respect for others while other societies do not Depending on which society you come from affects your respect for other societies 5 High Context Low Context Communication Emphasis on expression of ideas through explicit verbal messages emphasis on how verbal message can be
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