CMN 336: INTRO TO FAMILY COMMUNICATIONEXAM #2 STUDY GUIDE(FILL IN SOME SHIT YALL: 32)1. What is the difference between dating and courtship?1. Courtship; dating with the potential of marriage/dating with intent to marry2. Dating is less serious than a relationship 2. What are the two types of courtships? What do they look like?1. Relationship-Driven: linear line1. Very slow and steady2. More stability and emotional investment2. Event-Driven: variable increases and decreases based on what happens1. Fast growing decisions with quick declines2. Less stability, more conflict, less satisfiedii. What two reasons for cohabitation did we discuss in lecture?1. Alternative to marriage2. Step toward marriageiii. Are cohabiting relationships stable? What are two explanations for why they are (or are not) stable over time? What is serial cohabitation and how is it related to relational stability?1. Selection – people who cohabitate and people who do not are very different groups of people2. Experience – Cohabitation can change the relationship (Why not get married?) 3. Serial cohabitors jump from one cohabitation to the next, having no relationship stability, do not have good prospects for marriageiv. What is the difference between marital satisfaction and stability? Do marriages experience an increase or decrease in satisfaction over time?1. Marital Satisfaction- all marriages experience a decline but communication is the best indicator2. Stability- creating stable, satisfying relationshipsv. From Chapter 5 of your textbook, list and give examples of the seven types of affection.1. Declarations of commitment1. I love you2. Positive absolute statements1. You are the best daughter in the world2. Private language1. Cute nicknames, things only 2 people in a family know2. Messages of comfort and support1. Relying on your family member to support you through tough times2. It’s going to be okay2. Playfulness1. Kidding, silliness, teasing, banter2. Nonverbal intimacy and sexuality1. Physical intimacy within couples2. Emotional support with children like hugging or just them generally knowing that you are there for them2. Self-disclosure1. Telling each other in a family private informationii. From Chapter 5 of your textbook (and lecture), what is the basic premise of the Social Exchange perspective? What does “comparison level of alternatives” mean?1. You have to consider the costs and rewards in a relationship… there are downsides and benefits 2. You want to maximize rewards and minimize costs3. If the outcome is greater than comparison level (your expectations) and CL alternatives, the person will likely stay in the relationship4. CL alternatives is just how you assess in your mind what alternatives could be like such as another relationshipiii. What are positive and negative behaviors in marriage? What ratio of positive to negative behaviors do you need to have a satisfying, stable marriage?1. Positive: expressing affection, perspective taking2. Negative: expressing negative affect, criticizing (negative behaviors are more predictive of satisfaction than positive) 5:1 … five positive behaviors for everyone bad behavior 9. What are the four different emotional climates in marriage? Are marriages that are low in antagonism always the most satisfying? How do you know?1. Warm: high affection, low antagonism2. Bland: low affection, low antagonism ***** difficult to predict3. Tempestuous: high affection, high antagonism ***** difficult to predict4. Hostile: low affection, high antagonism9. What is mundane talk? What are daily debriefings and emotional bids? What are the three responses to emotional bids? Which response is the best? Which is the worst? Why?1. Daily debriefings – “How’s your day?”2. Emotional Bid – look for interest, attention, emotional support, closeness3. 3 Responses to emotional bids1. Turning towards – showing interest 2. Turning away – physically turn away or change subject3. Turning against – acting like it’s meaningless9. What do we mean when we say that in-law relationships are non-voluntary and triadic? How might this be a source of difficulty in in-law relationships?i. Non-voluntary relationship between two parties are held together by a linchpinii. Triadic – involving 3 people, linchpin being the one related to the in-law. 9. What are the components, dyads, and assumptions of the triangular theory of in-law relationships? i. Assumptions1. In-law relationship is the weak side of the triangle2. In-law triangle is constantly changing1. Biggest shifts happen in big life events like when a child is born, when they start to take care of in-laws, etc.2. Use this to help understand life course3. Communication among dyad members carries repercussions for the triad as a whole9. What are the three different views on the effects of the transition to parenthood? Change, Crisis, Completes the family.i. Division of labor1. Father does 2 tasks before child & mother does 42. After child, father does 7 & mother does 293. Men still unhappy with division of labor and marital satisfactionii. Leisure and companionship1. Less time for leisure activities2. Women choose majority of leisure activities for couple and familyii. Communication1. Time conversing decreases2. Expressing affection stays the same3. Negative communication stays the same4. Communication and role appropriation1. Role expectations (for self, partner)2. Role performances (facilitation, interference)9. How does the transition to parenthood impact marital satisfaction? Does having children increase or decrease marital satisfaction? What does marital satisfaction look like for parents versus non-parents?i. Effect of children on marital satisfaction proves small, although people thought otherwiseii. Increase in marital satisfaction for parents during pregnancy, then a drop to comparable levels of non-parents when child is born; the sharp decrease in satisfaction for parents may make it seem worse9. How does the transition to parenthood impact the division of labor? Before the first child, how many household tasks are performed by (1) couples, (2) fathers, and (3) mothers? What about after the first child?i. Division of Labor1. Before children1. wives do more work around the house ( of the work)⅔2. husbands do less work around the house ( of the work)⅓2. After First Child1. amount of work around the house goes up 2. wives do around 80% of the work around the house3. husbands do around 20% of