EDP 363 3 1st Edition Lecture 13 Outline of Last Lecture I Sexual Arousal II Case Study Story 1 III Story 2 IV Physiological Sexual Arousal V Sexual Arousal Cycle VI Masters and Johnson Pregnant Sex Positions Outline of Current Lecture I Masturbation II Dr Brownstein s Suggestions Thought Paper Current Lecture I II Masturbation a Myth If you re married you don t masturbate sexual relationship no masturbation b Reasons to masturbate in relationship i Partner out of house ii Partner had birth iii Partner may not be in mood iv Punish partner with no sex angry at partner Prof disagrees with this v Experimentation with partner vi Partner is sick vii You re bored viii Save time 2 reason ix No pressure in masturbation x Your partner doesn t satisfy you xi It s enjoyable you just get to focus on you sexual variety without cheating 1 reason why people masturbate c Evidence that humans are not monogamous we have to make a promise to not cheat we don t make a promise to breathe cause breathing is natural monogamy is not natural d People who masturbate enjoy sex more than people who do not because those who masturbate are more comfortable with their bodies Dr Brownstein s suggestions Thought paper on these suggestions due after spring break a 1 View love and sex as a gift not something that you owe These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute b c d e i How to make oral sex pleasurable for you 1 Giving oral sex to female touch your penis 2 Giving oral sex to male touch your clitoris 2 Your orgasm is your privilege to have or not to have and is mostly generated by your mind plus some appropriate friction If someone assists you in this friction think of it as a gift i A woman doesn t give a man an orgasm and a man doesn t give a woman an orgasm they simply provide stimulation the orgasm is up to your mind ii Sex is for pleasure yet we ve turned it into work and anxiety 1 Blowjob handjob bad phrases because they imply work a Why not suck pleasuring iii Turning other people on can turn you on sexually iv Help each other out v Mother nature made your hands touch your genitalsto make you happy 3 It is a sign of maturity to find out verbally or nonverbally what your partner likes sexually Not everyone likes the same things 4 No one else knows as well as you what your body mind likes and doesn t like It is a gift to let your partner know what you like in a kind way 5 Just because you can be interested in sex without love and vice versa doesn t mean that men and women can t be interested in both simultaneously i Myth for men if man says he loves someone it must involve sex 1 this is why men are embarrassed to say I love you to other men ii Myth for women you have to love someone to have sex with them