Exam 1 Study GuideWhat is the triangle theory of love?IntimacyPassionCommitmentThese are thought to produce 8 different types of loveDefine intimacy:The feelings of warmth, understanding, trust, support and sharing characterized in loving relationshipsDefine passionPhysical arousal and desire, excitement and needForm of sexual longing- strong emotional needDefine commitmentIncludes feelings of permanence and stability as well as the decisions to devote onself to a relationship and to work to maintain (cognitive in nature, intimacy is emotional and passion is a motive, or drive)The heat in loving relationships is assumed to come from passion, warmth from intimacy, commitment reflects a decision that may not be emotional at allWhat are the cateogies of love?Non-love- if intimacy, passion and commitment are all absent, love does not exist- this is a casual, superficial and non-commital relationshipLiking- liking occurs when intimacy is high, but passion and commitment are very low- liking occurs in friendships with real closeness and warmth that do not arouse passionInfatuation- commitment without intimacy or passion is empty love- this can be a burned out relationships in which the warmth and passion have died but the decision to stay is the only thing that remainsEmpty love may be the first, rather than final, stage in the spouses’ lives togetherRomantic love- high intimacy and passion, a combination of liking and infatuation. People often people committed to their romances- but commitment isn’t a defining aspect (summer flips)Companionate love- intimacy and commitment combine to form love for a close companion… long-term friendships- or a couple whose youthful passion has fadedFatuous love- passion and commitment in the absence of intimacy create this type of love- “stupid” “lacking substance” (two partners may of overwhelming passion- risky businessConsummate love- when intimacy, passion and commitment are all present- “complete”- love many people seek to fidnMetaphor- “like losing weight: easy to do for a while, but hard to maintain over time”Intimacy, passion and commitment can change over timeWhat does physiological perspectives suggest?Passion and intimacy are distinct experiencesThe regions of the brain that regulate our sexual desire for others appear to be different from those that manage our feelings of Attachment and commitmentExplain the areas of the brain that have to do with love?Lust- sex drive that is regulated by sex hormones- gives us the motivation to mate with othersAttraction- promotes the pursuit of a particular preffered romantic partnerDopamine and serotonin- attraction stimulates pair-bonding that control feelings of rewardThese mix of neurotransmitters is why lovers feel- “rejuvenated, euphoric”Romantic love activates the area of the pain that is affected by pain-relieving drugsAttachment- feelings of comfort, security and connection to a long-term mate that keep a couple together long enough to protect and sustain their very young childrenRegulated by oxytocin (feeling after having sex) dopamine is a key player in romantic love, oxytocin feelings of companionate loveWhat is the most common types of love to occur?Romantic, Passionate Love :Have intimacy and passion, increases when a person becomes aroused for any reason, combine to form romantic love- it is characterized by idealized evaluations of one’s partnerExplain arousal?Physiological arousal such as fast heart beat with the belief that another person is the cause of your arousalWhen someone is in a fearful/excited situation they have higher arousalDemonstrates that adrenaline fuels loveTwo types of love?A love that’s full of passion that leads people to pair off together and a love that is full of friendshioOvertime a compassionate love is typically stronger in enduring relationships than romantic, passionate loveWhat does Thought have to do with love?The two factory theory of passionate love emphasizes the role of thoughts and beliefs in accounting for arousalRomance is characterized by openness, communication an trustCaring- romantic lovers report concern for the welfare and well-beingIf your in love with someone- you are partly selfishWhat is the self-expansion love?Suggest that love causes our self-concepts to expand and change as our partner brings us new experiences and new rolesThe arousal and cognition that characterize romantic, passionate love involve surging emotion, imagination and idealization and occasional obsessionExplain Companionate love?Intimacy and commitment combine to form companionate love, a deep friendship with someone with whom one’s life is intertwined. Happy spouse usually says they are good friends ‘The longevity of a relationship may have more to do with companionate loveLong-lasting satisfying marriages seem to include a lot of companionate loveExplain Compassionate love?Intimacy combines with selfless caring for the beloved to form compassionate loveWhat are Styles of LovingSix themes in love experiences that are correlated with the various types of love have also been identifiedEros: erotic comes, physical component and erotic overs are likely to be heavily influenced by physical apppearence and believe at love at first sightLudus- treats love as an uncommitted gameStorge- leads people to de-emphasize strong emotion and to seek genuine friendships that gradually lead to real commitmentMania- demanding and possessive and full of vivid fantasy and obsessionAgrape- giving altruistic, and selfless and treats love as a dutyPragma- practical and pragmaticEros and agape- giving and takingWhat are the attachment stypes?Intimacy- secure attachment styles generally have high regard for others, viewing them as trustworthy, dependable and kindPassion- there is a lot of drama in the lives of preoccupied people but much of it isn’t pleasantCommitmentCaring and caregiving- insecure people are not as givingWhat does Age have to do with love?As people age, they have relationships of longer duration and more relationships overallMost people mellow with ageWhy doesn’t romantic love last?FantasyNoveltyArousalCMS 358 1st Edition Exam 1 Study Guide What is the triangle theory of love?- Intimacy - Passion - Commitment o These are thought to produce 8 different types of love Define intimacy:- The feelings of warmth, understanding, trust, support and sharing characterized in loving relationships Define passion- Physical