General Psychology Chapter 11 Love Relationships Who Are We Attracted To Proximity who like people are nearest to us Mere exposure repeated exposure increases likelihood Similarity we pair with people who are similar in Age Education Economic Status Physical appearance Personality Ethnicity Religion Political attitudes Interests Passionate vs Companionate Love Companionate love the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined Often associated with emotional intimacy Not associated with physiological More stable over time than passionate love Stronger companionate love in the first two years of marriage predicts longer more satisfying marriages Passionate love a wildly emotional state in which tender and sexual feelings elation and pain anxiety and relief altruism and jealousy coexist in a confusion of feelings Usually present at the beginning of a relationship Advice for happy lasting relationships 1 Passion is a drug Use it wisely 2 When passion comes down is there companionship 3 Don t make stupid decisions when you re high on it 4 Look at how you fight and argue Quality of conflict is NOT very important How you work conflict out IS very important Do you show signs of respect love and humor good Do you show signs of contempt or disgust bad Ruin your marriage in 4 steps 1 Marry young 2 Marry someone very different from yourself 3 Commit to marriage while in passionate love 4 Have a kid
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