Comm 1000 1st edition Lecture 9Outline of last lecture l. Nonverbal communication ll. 8 ways of sending non-verbal messageslll. Deception and non-verbal communicationOutline of current lecture lV. Interpersonal Communication V. Norms and RolesVl. Interpersonal relationships Vll. Attachment Vlll. Marriage Current outline lV. Interpersonal Communication A. Defining interpersonal communication - Communication that occurs between at least two interdependent parties V. Norms and roles A. Governed by rules- Norms- Roles B. Relational Norms - Norms- Guidelines that limit and direct behavior - Most relationships have specific norms - Norms show what is important in relationships- Norms becomes more specified in longer relationships and in there marriagesC. Relational Roles- Expected - How you should play a role- Enacted - How you actually play a role- Roles- set of behaviors that apply to a subclass - Such as father, husband, instructor, supervisor- Give predictability to relationship D. Role conflict- When roles conflict - Inter-role: Conflict-two roles entail- Intra-role: Conflict-contradictory expectations from one role Vl. Interpersonal relationships A. Relational satisfaction- DisclosureB. Self-disclosure- IntentionalComm 1000 1st edition- Crucial to developing intimacy- Johari window- Reciprocity and trust - The dyadic effect (VanLear-cycling)- Reasons for revealing - Clarity, emotion expression, impression- Reasons for concealment- Risk- Appropriateness (avoiding TMI)Vll. Attachment A. Attachment is an innate needB. Internal working modelsC. Attachment styles are coherent patterns of emotion and social behavior that occurin close relationships. D. Children’s Attachment Styles- Secure: around 70% od children (positive models of self and others)- Avoidant: around 20% of children (negative models of others)- Anxious-Ambivalent: around 10% of children (negative models of self)- PEE. Caregiver Communication Patterns - Secure: “goodness of fit” in terms of stimulation, responsive to basic needs, consistently caring- Avoidant: Over- or under stimulated, sometimes neglected.- Anxious-Ambivalent: Inconsistent response patterns, parent is preoccupied or stressed. Vlll. Marriage A. Swear it’s forever & exclusive B. Marital Styles- Not all marriages are equal in enactment - Traditional- Traditional attitudes towards marriages - Interdependent use of time and space- Moderate conflict-about “big” stuff- Independents- Non-traditional attitudes about rels - Independent use of time and space- Open and assertive conflict style - Separates - Traditional attitudes about marriage- Independent use of time and space- Low conflict but high