Discussion 357 23 Jan Discussion 357 23 Jan wma Audio recording started 11 49 AM Thursday February 06 2014 Thursday February 06 2014 11 48 AM 1 Commitment a How to communicate b Types of i Obligatory kids etc ii Moral marriage iii Structured Defining Roles Peacemaker Funny one etc these are your roles or the nurturing one 1 Fixed VS Interactive a Fixed i Unchanging roles very stable 1 Dad role b Interactive i Changing created through communication 1 Nurturing provider of the family 2 It all depends on what s going on in the family 2 Position VS Person Oriented roles a Position i Where you re in the family 1 Can change a little a You re the oldest child etc This is what we expect b Person Oriented role i Baed on who you are as a person 1 Sometimes you are the oldest and a goof off lol ii Based nn individual characteristics 3 Role expectation VS performance a Role expectation i Grandparents may have the idea that dad is supposed to this wife is supposed to do that 1 This isn t necessarily true in all cases b Performance i How they or you actually perform the role 1 Be respectful in certain situations 4 Significant others VS complimentary others a Significant i People that are such in your life teach you and help you and guide you in your role ii Marriages can be both significant and complimentary b Complimentary i A little more structural 1 Someone who fulfills a reciprocal role 2 In order to be a sister or brother you need to have a sibling 3 In order to be a son or daughter you need a parent Role functions 1 Provide gender socialization and sexual needs a Your family role teach you what it means to be abo and what it means to be a girl b Then it shows you how to meet those needs c what are boys supposed to do in life what are girls supposed to do in life d Gender socialization starts even before the baby is born parents will start buying pink or blue or colors according to it i Name toys etc