CO 201 Final Exam Study Guide Professor Nogueira Fall 2014 Chapter 9 Developing and Ending Relationships Relational Uncertainty refers to the lack of knowledge people have about their relationships and it stems from 3 kinds of doubts self partner relationship uncertainty can be solved through secret tests or relationship talk Relational Turbulence Model highlights how establishing interdependence can be a source of difficulty within developing relationships model when people move beyond the initial stages of relationship and allow partners to may be unavoidable partners create interference or barriers to your goals influence day to day experiences casually dating vs full on relationship vs 3 years in transition to intimacy is characterized by increases in goal interference ac cording to the Relational Turbulence Model Self disclosure essential tool for sharing information and reducing uncertainty Escalating Relationships initiating experimenting intensifying integrating bonding Uncertainty Reduction Theory process of gathering info about an interaction partner Berger initial interaction goal is to reduce uncertainty self disclosure is likely superficial in initial interactions Predicted Outcome Value Theory POV rewards a person expects to get from a future relation ship with a new acquaintance ex new roommate high POV more talking more questions encourage disclosures barista low POV Social Penetration Theory the onion model a description of relationship escalation that focuses on how com allows partners to probe each other s self concepts personalities are organized into layers outer layers are superficial public info ex Fam breadth variety of categories topics ex how many siblings do you have depth private info ex family secrets are your parents still in love Rule of Distributive Justice Social Exchange Theory SET is guided by this dictates that part ner s rewards should be proportional to the costs equity leads to increased intimacy and satisfaction Rules for FWBRs Emotional ex do not fall in love become hurt or jealous ex limit frequency of contact appropriate conversation topics be honest ex no cuddling agreed upon sexual behaviors safe sex precautions ex higher importance on friendship than sexual relationships ex relationship is temporary ex others in social network might not be privy to sexual aspect of friendship Communication Sex Friendship Permanence Secrecy maintaining a FWBR suggests that partners agree that they shouldn t tell anyone in their social group about their relationship Secrecy rules Chapter 10 Intimacy and Interpersonal Communication Intimacy connection between 2 people that includes psychological emotional and behavioral bonds Styles of Loving Consummate Love Liking Compan ionate Love etc Liking intimacy alone ex first start dating someone Romantic love intimacy passion Companionate love intimacy commitment ex friend Infatuation passion alone Fatuous love passion commitment Empty love commitment alone ex rela died out Consummate love intimacy passion commitment Hendrick Hendrick s Love Styles Eros Agape Storge etc primary forms of love eros ludus and storge Eros beauty sexuality passion Storge peaceful grounded in friendship Ludus entertaining exciting games ex tend to avoid com during conflict bc it s not fun 1 agape and erotic are more collaborative 2 ludic tend to avoid communication or withdraw during conflicts 3 ludus is associated with less satisfaction in romantic relationships 4 agape and eros rate romantic relationships as more rewarding more satisfying and more committed Pragma love which posits that love is practical and meets specific criteria is a mixture of Ludus and Storge Relational Maintenance refers to the actions people take to keep their relationship in a desired state strategic intentionally performed w the goal of maintaining relationship about relationship offer apology ex conversations routine daily routine ex taking our garbage out or making dinner every year on her birthday Brian buys flowers for Lucy this is routine rela tional maintenance Relational Dialectics Theory perspective that emphasizes the trade offs that create tension in close relationships two opposing but also united ideas or forces Dialectical Tensions Openness vs Privacy friends the problem vs keep private Novelty vs Predictability Autonomy vs Connection with us in the relationship and couples vs others internal tell you everything or keep private external tell internal new fun together vs stability internal girls night vs date night external date vs friends caregiver responds consistently attentive loving Attachment Styles Secure positive view of self and others way Preoccupied positive view of others negative view of self Dismissing negative view of others positive view of self Fearful negative view of self and others dating site he has trouble bc he is doubtful anyone could ever really care about him Preoccupied attachment style bc he has a positive view of others but a negative view of himself individuals with a dismissing attachment style would have a negative view of others positive view of self inconsistent treatment caregiver neglecting caregiver negative rejecting or abusive Infidelity Sexual involves having physical intimacy w someone other than a committed romantic partner Emotional involves devoting time attention and feelings to someone other than a committed romantic partner men tend to be more effected by sexual infidelity whereas women tend to be more hurt by emo tional infidelity Chapter 11 Communication in Families Functions of family Protection Family socialization process by which parents teach their children behaviors that are appropri ate expected moral or politeex please thank you financial responsibilities right wrong Transmission teaching of cultural practices from one generation to the next how to behave in certain social groups ex ethnicity religion etc Emotional support and comfort the teaching of cultural practices from one generation to the next is called Transmission Systems system bounded set of objects that interrelate w one another to form a whole subsystems refer to relationships that are formed between just a few members of the larger system ex the family ex we can t swap my sister for yours each person is their own individual 4 qualities of systems objects are distinct objects have specific characteristics diff roles or ages objects are related in different ways ex you your mom related diff than you your aunt systems are