FAMILY RELATIONS STUDY GUIDE FOR EXAM 1 1 Sternberg s Love triangles know 3 components and 8 types of love styles Love Triangle Commitment Intimacy Passion 1 Commitment A person s attachment to another Process develops over time Represents desire to be faithful Can be expressed by moving to a more advanced stage of a relationship 2 Intimacy 3 Passion The bonding and emotional closeness or connectedness Involves shared feelings self disclosure emotional support Increases as the closeness grows Gains greater depth as a relationship matures Develops quickly Romantic feelings desires and arousal Often involves touching kissing and being affectionate Can fade quickly 8 Types of Love Styles 1 Non love 2 Liking 3 Infatuation 4 Empty love 5 Fatuous love 6 Companionate love 7 Romantic love 8 Consummative love 2 Homogamy what is it Homogamy tendency to be attracted to and marry someone from same background ex ethnic socioeconomic religious background 3 Cohabitation vs marriage statistics from the intro notes Cohabitation more than of all couples live together before marriage 40 of kids will spend time in a cohabitating family Marriage 85 population marries at least once 1970 68 adults were married 1980 66 1990 62 today 60 age at first marriage increased for last 40 yrs 29 for men 28 for women less African Americans 42 married than other ethnicities 4 Binge drinking BAC alcohol terms and definitions Binge drinking 4 or more in a setting for women and 5 or more in a setting for men BAC Blood alcohol content depends on body size number of drinks per hour gender full stomach medication ethnicity Alcohol abuse generic term that includes alcoholism and problem drinking Alcoholism addiction to alcohol characterized by compulsive drinking Problem drinking alcohol consumption that results in a functional disability Substance abuse excessive consumption of alcohol Substance misuse serious and persistent use of alcohol Substance dependence serious and persistent use of level of use spending a great deal of time using unsuccessful attempts to control the substance presence of tolerance and withdrawal physiological dependence 5 Friendships what defines them Difference b w friendship romantic relationship less emotionally intense less exclusive less sacrifice lack of sexual intimacy 6 Hooking up what is it Who does it Defined as Who does it Encounters ranging from kissing to sexual intercourse those who drink frequently men extraverts less conscientious 7 Family Systems and Family Development theories characteristics differences Family System everything that happens to a family members affects the entire family because they are interconnected and operate as a group like one Family development primarily interested in how partners and family members deal with various roles and developmental tasks within the marriage and family as they move through various stages of the life cycle 8 Quantitative vs Qualitative research Quantitative oriented toward numbers stats usually larger sample Qualitative oriented toward ppl s experiences usually a smaller sample 9 Mate selection terms a What do men prefer Women prefer most in mates Men prefer good reproductive and child rearing potential younger in age beauty Women prefer good resource potential provider good financial prospects ambition older emotional maturity 10 Independent vs dependent variables examples Independent variable predictor variable Factor s that change the outcome variable How do we operationalize and manipulate Dependent variable outcome variable Dependent on the influence of other factors How do we operationalize 11 How do men and women flirt What method works best Flirting behaviors Heavy on the nonverbal behaviors 1 Gaze Copulatory gaze intense eye contact for 2 3 seconds pupils dilate communicates affection interest 2 Body posture and movement our behaviors tend to be exaggerated 3 Touch signals closeness interest men use touch more than women 4 Grooming gestures touching hair 5 Displacement gestures meaningless but alleviates anxiety Opening Lines 3 types 1 Direct communicates your interest honest 2 Innocuous harmless basic and short not obvious in between 3 Cute flippant pick up lines Interesting Gender Difference When men say the line direct and innocuous lines 70 success rate cute flippant 24 success rate When women say the line direct 100 success cute flippant 90 success 12 What is a nuclear family book Vs modern day family step families LGBT 13 The major distinction between substance abuse and dependence Substance abuse serious and persistent use of alcohol Substance dependence Level of use presence of tolerance and withdrawal physiological dependence 14 What is a standard drink 12 oz beer 1 5 oz hard liquor 5 oz wine Proximity Convenience Familiarity 15 Proximity vs Similarity know the differences enjoy rewards more easily when you are near liking increases with repeated contact we don t like what is unfamiliar Proximity accentuates our feelings both liking and disliking Similarity birds of a feather flock together we like those who are similar to us demographic characteristics attitudes and values personality Important Similarities Race 97 marriages of same race Religion Greatest risk of divorce is if one is very religious Socioeconomic Status Men often marry down women often marry up Age members of same generation at same life tasks Gap has narrowed and age entering marriage has climbed Propinquity Residence geographically limited locale internet