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Chatan Classes Intro Mazal Tov You are getting married or maybe you want to get married If you were to be an investor we would be considering you a reckless gambler Why Well you re investing your life which is all you got and the odds are not in your favor 60 divorce rate and many more are not even happy This will either be the best or the worst decision of your life You should know that But the good news is it s up to you You control this ride this life How are you going to play it Only you can answer that question Why is there such a high failure rate in marriage I ll give you two reasons which are my opinion When you want to be a neurosurgeon you have to go to 12 years of primary school 4 5 years of undergraduate school another 4 years of medical school 3 years of general surgery another 7 years of specializing in neurosurgery And you don t coast through these years You have to be willing to give up your life To become a successful neurosurgeon you need to do two things 1 have many many years of instruction and 2 a lot of hard work There must be nothing short of blood sweat and tears With that context as hard as neurosurgery is it pales in comparison to the difficulty of marriage To be a great neurosurgeon is one thing but s it s a much more difficult to be a great husband or wife Unfortunately there is a poverty of knowledge of marriage is The art of how to treat your other has been lost the way of a soul mate has been forgotten Furthermore our generation lives in a generation where instant satisfaction is the dominant form of satisfaction where we search for the high without even wanting to put the effort of going on our tippy toes we look for excellence in marriage without the effort of trying to be a person of excellence ourselves And no matter how deeply you know the truth of these ideas all of us to some degree suffer from this We don t want to work in the one are in life that definitively requires strain The job of this book is to give you the instruction