I. Three Dimensions of Good Parentinga. Warmth – nurturing touch, words, environmenti. Responsivenessii. Praiseiii. Express (+) emotions to/around1. “I love you” & affection2. insulate from tough adult stuff (not taking things out on the kids and do not involve them in adult conversationsiv. High = best (the more the better) 1. Secure attachments2. Better social adjustment3. Fewer discipline problems!b. (Behavior) Control: Rules and consequencesi. Good control is Medium: child feels safe, becomes moral1. Confrontive Control: change behavior not child2. Age approp. high expectations a. Enforce rules for appropriate age3. Avoiding conflict situations; redirection4. Consistently enforced rules for important things (i.e., safety) 5. Time-outs are Good Control (if done right) a. Takes longer but work better6. Results of good controla. Independent thinking from direct instruction (moral behind the rule) b. Better compliance and behaviorii. Bad control: child feels scared, resentful1. Low control: few rules/punishments2. High: controls too mucha. High behavioral controlb. Psychological/Coercive Controlc. Power assertive discipline: i. Do it because I control youii. Physical punishment alone3. Spanking is bad Control: a. Child doesn’t learn why (the moral) so becomes sneaky; goodness is external i. Illusion of immediate effectb. Child learns to use force to control others (Bandura – Social Learning Theory)c. Involvement (see text)i. Time with and knowledge of childii. High = best1. Positive correlation with High Warmth and Medium ControlII. Types of Parents (Baumrind, Maccoby)a. Authoritative: i. High warmth, Medium Control1. Encourages age-approp independence2. Dialogue about rules BUT parent has final sayii. BEST outcomes1. Good relationships2. Happier, higher self-esteem3. Better behavior!!b. Authoritarian: i. Low warmth, high control1. Value order, obedience to authorityc. Indulgent or Permissive: i. High warmth, low control1. Not many rules, if rules are broken = no consequences2. Friend to child, not parent to childii. Bad outcome: impulsived. Indifferent-Uninvolvedi. Low warmth, Low in controlii. WORST outcomes: 1. Aggressive, problems in school2. Substance abuse, crimee. BLOG: how do tiger, free-range and helicopter parents relate to these four typesIII. Friends at all agesa. Similar & become more similarb. Climate of agreement – do nice things for our friends, friends don’t fight (agee to disagree) c. Proximityi. Most likely to become friends with the people we interact with frequentlyand that are close to us (i.e., neighborhood, school, church, sports teams)d. Stabilityi. School-age: one close friend = <loneliness (low level)ii. Stability decreases if proximity is decreasesiii. Stability can also decline in transitional times (i.e., elementarymiddlehighcollege) IV. Friends in Adolescence/Adulthooda. Psychological Intimacy: self-disclosure (i.e., sharing secrets, fears, goals)i. Teens: higher self-esteem & better social skills if have a friend like thisii. Risks1. Betrayal of confidence2. Friends might leave: hard to replaceIn-Class Assignment - (F) 1. Come up with two causes for each of the following examples of "bad" parenting: a) parents who love their kids don’t express it.The parents who love their children but don’t express might beattributed from being surrounded by stress and not really having the time to express love or that because they have never been shown love so they don’t know how to express their love for their children. b) parents don’t have rules or enforce the rules.Parents who don’t have rules or enforce rules could be because they have a need to be accepted and that the one place they can ensure that someone accepts them is being the “cool parent” or their child’s friend rather than their parent. c) parents emphasize obedience instead of age-appropriate independent thinking.Parents who emphasize obedience instead of age-appropriate independent thinking could be that they always feel the need to have control over something whether at home or at work and they know that the one thing they can have control over is their kids because their kids are looking to them for life advice and direction. They also do this so that they can live vicariously through their child, if their adolescence lacked something they wished it didn’t lack. If a parent can make a child obedient rather than allowing the child to develop some independence then they will be able to sway the child to do the things they want them to do as they get older like what college or job to have because if the kid goes against theirparent the parent implies that they will be disappointed in them.2. How would being in Piaget’s Formal Operations stage help adolescents include psychological intimacy in their friendships?In the Formal Operations stage of Piaget’s Developmental Stages, this is where adolescents are able to think more logically and hypothetically. So even though they aren’t sure how their friendis going to react or if they will reciprocate the same feeling (i.e., notjudging them) when the information is shared, they share anywayrelying on the basic logic abilities of the Concrete Operational Stageand their previous experience especially if their friend has shared something