Psy 274 1st Edition Lecture 24Outline of Last Lecture I. Cognitive maintenance mechanismsII. Cognitive interdependenceIII. Positive Illusions IV. Behavioral maintenance mechanismsV. Willingness to sacrificeVI. ForgivenessVII. AlternativesCurrent Lecture I. Types of loveII. Why does love last?III. Recap of SemesterCurrent Lecture:The idea that love and marriage go together is a western idea that is modern. Love Types of Love: (8 different combinations to different relationships)These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.- Non-love (absence of all 3)- Liking (intimacy only) so liking- Infatuated love (passion only)- Empty love (commitment only) I hate my mom but im still going to take careof her eventhough she is mean- Romantic love (intimacy + passion)- Companionate love (intimacy + commitment) (BFFs but no passion)- Fatuous love (passion + commitment)- Consummate love (all 3): all about actually getting what you want Does love last?- Passionate love typically decreases after people marry (Sprecher & Regan, 1998)-o Two years after marriage, average spouses express affection half as often as they did when they were newlyweds (Huston & Chorost, 1994)o Most common duration for a divorce? 4 yearso Why? Fantasy declines- Fantasy enhances passion- Passion leads to idealization and ignoring of information - Fantasy erodes with time and experience and so doespassion Novelty also declines- Novelty fuels romantic love- The Coolidge Effect: with multiple parteners the more passion the more we can reproduce but with one partner than only so much we can do. (mostly with animals) novelty going down leads to passionate love going down over time. Arousal declines (physiological arousal goes down)- Obsessive preoccupation fades, even when desire and caring remain (Acevedo & Aron, 2009)- BUT, commitment and intimacy increase over time, so yes, love
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