Fam Serv 1010 Lecture 19Outline of Previous Lecture I. Jealousy BasicsII. Who is more jealousIII. Who makes us jealousIV. What makes a person jealousV. What makes us jealousOutline of Current Lecture Continued Notes…I. Mate PoachingII. Lying RelationshipsIII. Responses To JealousyIV. Reasons for jealousyCurrent Lecture1.) Mate Poaching- Attracting someone already in a relationship- Surprisingly common- Men tactics: publicize their power and their willingness to provide their lovers desirable resources. (Offer compliments and are overly generous to those whose attention they seek.)- Women tactics: advertise their good looks and sexual availability. (Flaunt their beauty, promise access to sex, and complain about their current partners.)2.) Lying RelationshipsOutright lying in which people fabricate information and make statements that contradict the truth is the most straightforward example of deceptive behavior, but there are various other ways to convey misleading impressions without coming right out and saying things that are untrue.- Our closest relationships: - Fewer lies overall- But, most serious lies happenThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.- The most common type of lie is one that benefits the liar, warding off embarrassment, guilt, or inconvenience, or seeking approval or mater gain.- ¼ of all lies are told to benefit others, protecting their feelings or advancing their interests.- Deceiver’s Distrust:- Liars assume that other people are just like them, so they assume that others share their own deceitful motives, makes them feel better.- “If I am lying, you must be lying too!”3.) Responses to jealousy- Jealous people lash out in ways that are:- Unequivocally harmful- Retaliating against their partners with violent behavior- Verbal antagonism- Efforts to make others jealous in return4.) Reasons for jealousy- Realize the value of current relationships- Do we create jealousy on purpose?- Increase commitment level- Adaptive threat to infidelity- Evolutionary “idea”: Paternity is uncertain; maternity is certain Infants tend to look more like their father Helps “confirm” paternity for