EDP 363-3 1st Edition Lecture 13Outline of Last Lecture I. Sexual Arousal II. Case Study/Story 1III. Story 2IV. Physiological Sexual ArousalV. Sexual Arousal CycleVI. Masters and Johnson: Pregnant Sex PositionsOutline of Current Lecture I. MasturbationII. Dr. Brownstein’s Suggestions (Thought Paper)Current LectureI. Masturbationa. Myth: If you’re married, you don’t masturbate (sexual relationship = no masturbation)b. Reasons to masturbate in relationshipi. Partner out of houseii. Partner had birthiii. Partner may not be in moodiv. Punish partner with no sex/angry at partner (Prof disagrees with this)v. Experimentation with partnervi. Partner is sickvii. You’re boredviii. Save time (#2 reason)ix. No pressure in masturbationx. Your partner doesn’t satisfy youxi. It’s enjoyable: you just get to focus on you; sexual variety without cheating (#1 reason why people masturbate)c. Evidence that humans are not monogamous: we have to make a promise to not cheat (we don’t make a promise to breathe, cause breathing is natural)  monogamy is not naturald. People who masturbate enjoy sex more than people who do not because those who masturbate are more comfortable with their bodiesII. Dr. Brownstein’s suggestions (Thought paper on these suggestions due after spring break) a. 1. View love and sex as a gift, not something that you oweThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.i. How to make oral sex pleasurable for you:1. Giving oral sex to female: touch your penis2. Giving oral sex to male: touch your clitorisb. 2. Your orgasm is your privilege to have or not to have and is mostly generated by your mind plus some appropriate friction. If someone assists you in this friction, think of it as a gift.i. A woman doesn’t give a man an orgasm and a man doesn’t give a woman an orgasm; they simply provide stimulation, the orgasm is up to your mindii. Sex is for pleasure, yet we’ve turned it into work and anxiety1. Blowjob/handjob – bad phrases because they imply worka. Why not “suck pleasuring”?iii. Turning other people on can turn you on sexuallyiv. Help each other out!v. Mother nature made your hands touch your genitalsto make you happyc. 3. It is a sign of maturity to find out (verbally or nonverbally) what your partner likes sexually. Not everyone likes the same things.d. 4. No one else knows as well as you what your body/mind likes and doesn’t like. It is a gift to let your partner know what you like in a kind way.e. 5. Just because you can be interested in sex without love and vice versa doesn’t mean that men and women can’t be interested in both simultaneously i. Myth for men: if man says he loves someone, it must involve sex1. this is why men are embarrassed to say “I love you” to other menii. Myth for women: you have to love someone to have sex with