Psych 2310 1st Edition Lecture 17 Outline of Last Lecture I. People have a need for interpersonal contactII. What makes us likeable?III. What makes us attractive?Outline of Current Lecture I. What attracts people to each other romantically?II. What is love?III. How do we keep love from dyingCurrent LectureI. What attracts people to each other romantically?a. We like people similar to usb. “Matching hypothesis”= People like others they think are similar levels of attractiveness to themselvesi. People who are less attractive probably have a compensatory quality (ex: rich)c. Similar namesd. Matching traitsi. Valuesii. Traitsiii. Interestse. People are attracted to others with dissimilar immune systemsThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.i. Stinky t-shirt study= Women preferred smell of men who were most dissimilar to theirs. This is because their MHC is different which means their immune systems are different. This would give their offspring the best chance at survival.II. What is love?a. Love always involves some mixture of passion, intimacy, and commitmentb. 4 love stylesi. Romantic= Intimacy and passionii. Companion= Intimacy and commitmentiii. Fatuous= Passion and commitmentiv. Consummate= All threec. Feelings of passion are not an adequate basis for marriage. The higher the initial passion the more likely the couple will divorce.III. How do we keep love from dyinga. Attachment theoryi. Secure attachment= comfortable depending on others. This will be the most successful in a relationship1. Thought to be caused by a warm and responsive parent figure as achildii. Anxious= Worries others will abandon them1. Thought to be caused by a cold/rejecting parent figure as a childiii. Avoidant= Gets nervous when others are too close1. Thought to be caused by an ambivalent/non-consistent parent figure as a childb. 5:1 ratio of good to bad experiencesi. Bad is more powerful than goodc. Relationship stylesi. Validating= Compromising, calmii. Volatile= Thrives on emotional intensity, may fight bitterlyiii. Conflict avoiding= Side steps disagreementd. Equity theory= Balance obligations, chores, dutiese. Disclosure reciprocity= Equal amount of disclosuref. Child rearing negatively impacts people. Couples usually say they like spending time with their children more than they actually
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