COMM 335 1st Edition Lecture 23 Outline of Last Lecture I Why do we form relationships II Intercultural relationships III Benefits of intercultural relationships IV Challenges of intercultural relationships V 4 phases of relationship development Outline of Current Lecture I Three levels of information self disclosure II Romantic relationships III Intercultural dating and marriage IV Intercultural relationships V Permanent relationships VI Four styles of working out power imbalances Current Lecture I Three levels of information self disclosure a Outer boundary superficial information about self and life Only share basic information about yourself with others b Middle Circle Personal information life history family background c Inner core very personal private information some of which we never share d As you get older it is harder to share your private information These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor s lecture GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes not as a substitute II Romantic relationships a Chinese and U S Students Gao Ge 1991 III Common themes openness involvement shared nonverbal meanings and relationship assessment Differences U S students emphasized physical attraction passion and love more individualistic orientations Chinese students emphasized importance of partner s connectedness to their family and other relational connections more collectivistic orientation Intercultural dating and marriage a Romantic love influenced by society media stereotypes play a role in this process b Certain groups have been made to seem as if they were more attractive and acceptable as partners Asian women portrayed as obedient concubines IV Intercultural relationships a People in intimate relationships gave similar reasons for dating across culture or within their own cultures physical and sexual attractions b Reasons for not dating within group included lack of attraction whereas reasons for not dating outside of group included no opportunity and or never thought about it c Other studies suggest that negative familial and social pressure influenced decision not to date outside one s own ethnic group d Some ethnic groups in the U S especially Jewish and African American fear absorption or assimilation through intercultural marriages e Romantic love is influenced by cultural stereotypes and histories even though that goes against what all of our fairy tales tell us f Extremely individualistic orientations experienced less love care trust and physical attraction with partners in romantic relationships g Problem less common in collectively oriented societies V Permanent relationships a Intercultural marriage in the U S and Canada tends to be more common among women than men older than younger and more educated individuals b Major concerns include familial social pressure and issues around raising children both in terms of how to raise them and in terms of how others see them VI Four styles of working out power imbalances 1 Submission style most common but rarely lasts One partner lets the other partner make all the decisions 2 Compromise style each partner gives up something 3 Obliteration style difficult to obliterate cultural background 4 Consensus style most desirable based on agreement and negotiation
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