Psych 350 1st Edition Lecture 20Outline of Last Lecture I. Does the hard-to-get effect exist?II. ReactanceIII. Attachment StylesOutline of Current LectureI. Companionate LoveII. Keys to a happy marriageCurrent LectureI. Companionate Lovea. Form of affection found between close friends as well as romantic partnersb. Less intense than passionate love- But in some respects it is deeper and more enduring- Characterized by high levels of self-disclosure- Often reciprocalII. Keys to a happy marriagea. At least a 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative interactionsb. Avoid Gottmans “four horseman of the apocalypse”- Criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt- Example of criticism: You’re always watching TV, why can’t you just get up for once and do some shit around the house- Example of Defensiveness: your always watching TV- no, you’re always watching TV, cant I just do my job and watch a little news.- Example Contempt: mocking… I know what’s going to happen “Oh honey, everything is going to be ok, I’m right behind you”- in the other persons voice.- Example of stonewalling: the silent treatment, refusing to cooperate- Criticism- call attention to percienved problems with the partner and relationship- Contempt- putting down their partner (can be non-verbal, rolling eyes, smirk)- Defensiveness- denying responsibility(sometimes denying partner back)- Stonewalling- withdrawingThese notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a
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